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female
age
30-35,
*pendy
writes:He never makes the first move to kiss me, I always go up to him and start kissing him not even when he have sex he say 'baby show me some love or 'are you gonna show me some love and I find this really weird cos it's never happened before with none of my exs, they would just start on me and I found that very sexy but with him is like I have to go up to him and I don't think I should do that. Yeah, maybe once in a while but not all the time. It took him like 2 months just to even hold me and kiss me and when I asked he said cos he's got respect. I really don't know what to do any more and I don't wanna bring it up cos I don't want to embarrass him or anything. I don't even remember the last time he came up to me. It's like he waits for me to make the move. What should I do? What is going on with him? please help?I do like him and not cos of sex.. he doesn't even hold me hug or anything.. ever since we met he's just never really made a move on me is frustrating cos everytime I ask him if he likes me and stuff he says if he didn't like me he wouldn't be with me so am very sad and confused. He doesn't tell me if he misses me or anything..:(
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (18 March 2009):
Sounds like he's just there for the hell of it. If you make a move then it's sex on a plate and he doesn't have to make any effort.
If you don't then he's just not bothered.
I wonder why you are still with him? I mean, if he doesn't even put his arm round you then what is the point in being any more than friends. In fact not even friends as I have male friends who are more affectionate than your boyfriend.
Stop making moves and after a day when he hasn't come near you tell him that you aren't happy and you want a boyfriend who actually wants to put effort in to pleasing you and doesn't make you beg.
If he can't do that then leave.
It could be he's very submissive and has a low sex drive, or it could be he's just lazy and doesn't care.
Either way, I know I couldn't be with someone like that.
Good Luck!! xx
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