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writes:my ex and i broke up at the end of november. he ended it because he felt like we were drifting apart (school and work got in the way of seeing each other a lot). a week after not talking he chatted me on facebook so we could discuss the break up. he let me ask questions and one i asked was did he regret dumping me. he replied not really then immediately said kinda because we dont talk. he asked a few times if we could be friends (we were best friends before we dated). 2 more weeks went by of no talking maybe a hey here and there but nothing more.out of nowhere he chatted me on fb and we talked for 20ish minutes. he kept encouraging me on how i would do amazing on my drivers test. we didnt talk the next day. the following day i texted him i got my license after that we texted for 30 minutes. i ended it then later got on fb and he immediately chatted me we talked for an hour then he said would you like to see a movie with our friend logan and himself. before the movie he texted me for 30 mins (it seemed like he didnt want the convo to end). we went it was pretty awkward but he tried hard not to let get awkward. for the next week he would always text/chat me we would talk anywhere from 20 mins - 2 hours. after those 10 days he just backed off completely. i think it was because he saw i was talking to a few guys on facebook (im friends with them and nothing more). during the times i was talking to other guys he would go out of his way to not talk to me. if i was on fb he would sign off immediately. 5 days this lasted. when we came back from break i would see him sometimes at school. we held eye contact the first day from across the room for a few seconds. later that night after 5 days of ignoring me he chatted me on fb. the next day we held eye contact again and later that night i chatted him on fb but he seemed annoyed (i think because my friend danny wanted me to make a status about him and i did). the next day he didnt look at me (i dont think). he would sign off fb once again if he saw me. after not talking to any guys for a few days my ex chats me on fb but i was out and replied 20 minutes later and he was still on waiting for me. we talked for 20 minutes but he had to go. the following day i posted a picture of some puppies (inside joke with some friends) and 4 girls and 4 guys were tagged in it. i chatted my ex and he seemed like he didnt want to talk to me. its only been a day since hes started ignoring me again but its really starting to bug me at this point.-we still dont talk in person because its still awkward-he is not seeing anyone that anybody knows of -he is shy when it comes to asking girls out so i doubt he will ever bring up dating-why is he acting like this?-does he like me more then a friend?-why is he ignoring me?-why is he going from hot to cold nonstop?
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (13 January 2011):
 -Why is he acting like this?
It's possible that he's trying to be your friend, but it's rather awkward since you guys just broke up. He may also not be used to the idea that you guys are broken up and trying to be friends.
-Does he like me more than a friend?
He says he wants to be friends, and you guys are friends. This is something you're going to have to ask him, instead of speculating.
-Why is he ignoring me?
It seems as he feels like he's being too needy or perhaps coming on too strong as your friend. He's taking his "me time" as well. The boy doesn't have to talk to you daily.
-Why is he going hot, cold nonstop?
Again this is related to your first question. He doesn't know how to be your friend.
We're not mind readers, I don't know what his deal is. Why don't you ask him what is up with his behavior?
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