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writes:Dear Cupid,I am 14 years old, and im ugly. I have bushy eyebrows, a uni-brow, im as white as all getout, and my hair is super thick. I hang out with all the pretty girls at school because of the sport i play, but no guy has ever liked me. I feel like an outsider in my circle of friends, they even think i might be lezbien because i have never gone out with a guy before. I dont know what to do! and i am afraid that if i do change something, people will make fun of me, and ill be even more insecure than i was before. Please help, i dont want to go to high school with no firends, no boyfriend, and no chance of ever finding one.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2011): Fitting in is really not that important. You will find this out later in life. Ask yourself why you want to be like those other girls, because that is an unreachable goal. You are your own person, and thats why you can never be someone else. Focus on yourself and school, rather than fitting in.Oh, and eyebrows and pale skin CAN be dealt with.I don't know if jou have heard of it, but there's a little something called tanners and tweezers in this world :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2011): I know just how you feel, Im 14 too except im already at my senior school as i live in England.
I used to be Just like you, Uni-brow, bushy hair, the lot.
I was so self-conscious and up until now i'd never had a boyfriend and thought id never get one.
This summer i decided enough was enough and i pretty much changed myself. I had my eye brows waxed and i had my hair done into a really nice style, I wore makeup that is natural and suits my skin tone and i felt so much better in myself.
This year i moved schools and went to a mixed school as i was at an all girls school before.
I put on a confident show to let people know that i wasn't scared of the things they could say about me and it was the best thing i had ever done.
And soon enough i started to get noticed... the girl who had never had a boyfriend before, never kissed anyone changed...
Only a small while after that i had my first kiss with the fittest boy in school, He was 16 and it was a great experience, After i 'Changed' i found i could get nearly everyone and saw people looking at me (:
But after all this i haven't changed my personality or my inside just my outside because one of the main things boys like is a girls personality..
Good luck, Nothing is impossible x
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2011): Hey it's ok I'm 14 to and I'm also going to high school and I also never had q girlfriends but I didn't have any because I recused like 4 and I'm very handsome but never had a girlfriend. I just try to forget that so it doesn't get in my way try to do that yourself maybe it will help
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reader, jljackson89 +, writes (13 January 2011):
Believe me when I say this hits the nail on the head with me. When I entered high school, I had horrible acne, wore no make up, and didn't own a pair or tweezers. It was bad. But luckily the situation of your appearance is easily fixed. A make over between the break of middle school and high school can be something that gives you a confidence boost. Buy a pair of tweezers and use them. Make up can give you a feeling of self confidence which it sounds like it's something you need. So go ahead and make yourself up, there's nothing wrong with that. Find a haircut/style that you like and that suits you, a stylist can help pick something for a person with thick hair. And as for a boyfriend, put yourself out there. Guys like a girl who's comfortable being herself. But never sacrifice your integrity to please a guy. Hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2011): Hi. You sound like my twin when I was 13/14/15. I was too "ugly", a black duckling. Bushy eyebrows, acne (don't know if you have), I was hairy, overweight, unattractive and super white. I hung out with "popular", gorgeous girls to sort of heighten my status, and like you, I shared classes and stuff with them. I felt miserable everyday. No amount of makeup made me feel pretty. I was called an ugly freak with bad acne, and a lesbian. At one point, to protect myself from boys, I did call myself a lesbian, because the teasing and torment would not stop. But guess what, I have a newsflash for you, you CAN change, and you SHOULD change, because gradually, you will gain respect for yourself with that change and all other opinions and worries around you will fade. Start off by tweezing those eyebrows, a proper shape will add definition to your face and will accentuate your eyes and cheekbones. Put a little makeup on your eyelids, maybe a dash of mascara. Go to the beach and get a proper tan! Don't overdo it, youth is sought after and you have it. You play a sport so I'm assuming your weight isn't a problem? How about toning your body and signing up for a gym membership? Go to a stylist. Consult a beautician. Ask your mom. Learn to love and take care of yourself. If there is something unsettling about your body that makes you insecure, you CAN get rid of it and you can better it. It's YOUR body, treat it well.You CAN be beautiful. And you CAN get a boyfriend. Eventually, at age 16 and 17, I flourished into a white swan and now I can't get some guys off my back! It's possible. The hurt is still there, but that is what friends are for. If your friends are making you feel insecure, get new ones. Don't seek refuge among the pretty girls if they are mean to you. They like having you around because they can smell the insecurities on you. Hold your head up high and put a little effort into your looks. You can do it!Good luck! :)
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (13 January 2011):
 It is something you have to face no matter what. Go through school, for now, tolerate their nonsensical words and succeed in whatever you can. Everyone at that age is more or less immature and EVERYONE is more or less insecure about themselves. Your unibrow can be shaven, your, you can tweeze your eyebrows and your hair will change depending on what you eat. Get at least 40 grams of protein and eat a lot of fruits and vegetables and make sure you drink a lot of water too. That should ensure your hair is healthy. Do not worry about your skin, you are only 14, it will change in time, as will everyone around you. Do not fight change, at this age, everyone wants change, change is what allows people to progress and discover who they truly are which is what adolescence is all about. You needn't fear anything, make yourself feel good about yourself and if someone tries to get you down, ignore them, they are immature, nothing more. Make some friends and don't worry about getting a boyfriend, just be patient.
I hope that helps.
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