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writes:My husband and I have been married for 22 years. Recently, in the last two years, he has been being a little too friendly to women when we are out in public. He is not a touchy kind of guy and we do have sex on a regular basis. We are both 58.It began when he went to see my neighbour who is 43, recently divorced, and a good friend of mine. She is attractive and he is her contractor. In the past we have spent holidays together and our kids are great friends. He made up as reason to see her about an upcoming job and then lied to me when I went over there and he acted quilty. Her childern were home and he was just talking but he was acting very strange. He said he didn't know why he went there but just wanted to talk to his friend. Months and much counseling later we went back over for a consult on her job and as we left her house after dinner he grabbed her hand and was swinging it as we walked down the driveway in front of me. When confronted he said he was just showing affection and then he realized that sounded strange to tell your wife and said he was sorry. At a biker show in the middle of me buying him some T-shirts he walked away and went over to the counter when he saw a woman he knew and grabbed her hand while I stood there and found myself talking to myself.Last week at his cousin's wedding he was introduced to one of his cousin's girlfriends and at a first time meeting I looked up from the table and watched him rubbing her arm three times while he was shaking her hand.These women are all blond and in the forties and nice looking. I am nice looking for 58 but probably 20 pounds overweight and he is 30 pounds overweight.Our sex life is great for him as he gets oral sex and intercourse whenever he wants. He does not give me oral sex and actually has only done it twice in 22 years. I am clean but he is not a lover who please anyone but himself. His mother is a cold woman and his father left the family when he was 12 and then died when he was 22. His past woman history was dating for sex and fun but no commitment. We married 5 years after we had a son... and he is great joy.My husband does not want a divorce but he is not able to say I love you during sex, yet says it to me many times a day.What is up with his touching other women yet not touching me in public?
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (29 October 2008):
 I'm glad we could help you with this, it sounds like he's seen the the light, men can be so dense sometimes.
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reader, tykdyidt +, writes (29 October 2008):
tykdyidt is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI appreciate all the responses posted to my question. I Told my husband about the question and then read it to him as well as the responses. He said he was sorry that he had embarrassed me that way. He had brought me flowers last night and said he wanted to make things better. We discussed the hurting factor I feel when he does these things and I asked him the motive behind the actions. He said that he never plans to do this to hurt me he just does it to be friendly. I asked if he does this touching thing when he is in public alone and he said no. I asked if he used to use this method to pick up women when he was single and he said no. I am a little worried that his behavior has changed to this within the last two years and that he doesn't see it as hurtful to me.Hope he is not getting senile. I am concerned about the judgment factor more than the possible breech of fidelity. Thank you all for your input.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2008): I hate guys that cannot keep there hands to themselves. It is so annoying and irritating. Hopefully one of these girls will put him in his place. Unfortunately some might enjoy the attention.
Sounds as if he is looking for some "fun". Becareful!
Tell him that you dissaprove of his behavior and that it is humiliating to you. He sounds like a very selfish lover. Stop spoiling him,if he does not give you pleasure and does not want to give you oral, then none to him.
Want to get him worried and get his attention? Make an effort to lose some weight and see how quick he will wonder what you are up to.
A quote by Barbara Grizzuti Harrisons comes to my mind.
" Kindness and intelligence don't always deliver us from the pitfalls and traps. There is now way to take the danger out of human relationships".
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (28 October 2008):
I'd tell him to knock it off with this touching other women. If he doesn't one can only hope that some lady with catch him upside his head. Keep your eyes open.
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