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writes:Hello this is just a bit of an update of a development of a question http://www.dearcupid.org/question/can-anyone-please-interpret-this-girls-behavior.htmlbasically I left for canada and then returned to Seattle, well basically me B and S went to Olympia a couple of days before i was ready to go back to the UK as S was visiting family there, while we was at her familys house and every body was going to sleep, i was getting ready to sleep on the sofa bed when S asked me if I don't mind sharing the sofa bed with her to which i replied 'alright' to which she replied 'I didnt think you'd mind' but she said it in a strange almost surprized manner. anyway as we was in bed she said 'I think whoever you sleep with... you should let it happen' having no idea what she meant by this i didnt reply and felt awkward, I then put my arm round her and asked her if she minded she then replied 'no i dont mind' she then started sniffing me in a playful way and started grabbing my tummy area and then i called her a silly bannana which she replied 'did you just call me a silly bannana?' in a very happy wayanyway we settled down to sleep i wrapped my arm round her.. later in the night she then turned over and snuggled into me...in the morning b's bf who was with us went to college and b said that she would be going downtown with hiim, S had aggred to show me around olympia then show me back to the bus station as i had to get my stuff in seattle to return home, S asked me if i wanted to stay in the house or hangout with B and her bf...i was hesitant at first but i decided to stay with S....later B decided that she would be staying here too which S replied 'so B do you feel guilty about leaving ur friiiieeennnddd behind' again in a very bitter and sarcastic way. so me B and S larked about in olympia however i felt very awkward almost like the odd one out.S and B were gonna stay one more night in olympia so they said that they would show me back to the station so i culd go to seattle then we went to a bar for a little while, they said they wanted me to go bac as it looked like i was quite depressed and i wastnt enjoying myself, B was hardly speaking to me, i then told S that she was always welcome to have me as a contact when she wanted to come to UK which she smiled and looked quite happy, i then told her that she's a nice person and that i respect her which she said thanks and smiled again just before i left she told me to leave my contact info with her roommateanywys when i get back to UK i send her a e-mail saying that i thought she was attractive and that she's interesting and i liked her but i didnt want to admit it fully as i felt the situation was very complicated (the house they moved too,the arguments,the fact she didnt have her own room, the fact i was there to visit B) and i didnt want to complicate things, i then said i could tell she had a soft spot for me but that she didnt want to admit it, and that i was very shy around her as i found her behaviour quite strange and impossible to figure out, i said that she was always welcome to come to UK.I got no reply so i thought ok...its time to move on nothing will come of this...untilli met her on the IM and she said she was coming to bulgaria and that she would like to meet me in england on the way back. however when i next spoke to her on IM she wastnt coming to europe, i then told her i was coming back to US at end of summer, which she asked 'would you like me to come back to england with you?' which i replied yesanyways she left seattle to travel around US, i left a voicemail on her phone to confirm i was coming back to US, ...maybe by coincidence she had then gone back to seattle upon finding out this...she then said she is looking for a job to raise money so she could come back to UK with me.i sent her a e-mail letting her know about what i had got up to recently and what not, she then told me that she's trying to make money to come back with me and really wants to go, and that when i'm in US she would definitly like to meet up and that she cant wait to see me...ok the question i would like to ask is.... what is this person after, it certaintly seems like she's after more then friendship or is it just me being arrogant/my imagination.. sorry if i sound a little naive, 'd like to know people's views and what they think of the situation.
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reader, PM  +, writes (11 June 2010):
 It does sound like she's more than just friendship but it's really hard to say what exactly she may be looking for, as it's not clear whether she even really knows.
I think the question that may be more important for you to answer is: what do you want to happen in this situation?
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