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writes:What does he want with me? Here is the situation. I have been married to my high school sweetheart for 15 years and have three beautiful children. I have little experience with other men because of my long term relationship so I am having problems determining what this mans intentions are with me. I met him at a work conference about a year ago and he is also married to his high school sweetheart and has three kids. I am very attractive and I am used to men flirting with me but I have never given it any thought or attention until now. This man made me feel ways that I never have just by looking at me. He is gorgeous, funny and smart. I noticed he spent his time around all the pretty women but paid me special attention.I thought he was such a player until I started talking to him. He talked about his beautiful wife and all the things that he did for her and his beautiful family. He acted like he was madly in love. A week after the conference was over he called me by getting my number from the company directory and left me a vm just to see how the job was going. We never talked but he did text me a couple of times. I saw him twice since then for a day meeting and again gave me special attention with lots of smiles. Since march I haven't seen him but every once in a while he shoots me a text and I will send one back and that is it. Things have changed. He now texts me almost everyday for the last month and several times a day. We just make jokes, talk about books we are reading or everyday life. He never says anything inappropriate but I am starting to think of him all of the time. I never text him first and if we go a few days without communication he will text me to ask how I am. We do have a flirtatious communication but he never comes out and says that I am hot or that he wants anything more. I would never leave my marriage or kids. My questions is to those males out there...is this relationship more to him then just friends or is he bored during the day and just looking for some fun by testing me. What is he looking for? I am going crazy because I can't figure him out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2010): Unlike the others I will actually answer your question. It sounds like he likes you. I would say he probably is just looking for a little attention. An attractive lady talking to him makes him feel good.
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reader, Wild Thaing  +, writes (19 September 2010):
 What are YOU looking for?
It doesn't matter what he's looking for because in the end you will either respect the boundaries or not. Are you trying to set up a future excuse of "but he made me do it"?
By asking these questions you ought to ask yourself why you are even considering them. That will take a great deal of honesty. Good luck and take care.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (19 September 2010):
There are two things here that you need to take notice of.
1 - Your interest in this man is growing, which means you need to get to work on your marriage a bit. You say you'd never leave your marriage or kids, but you wanting to know how this guy feels can easily spiral out of control.
2 - This also proves this theory about your guy being a player is perhaps correct. Maybe he's looking to try his luck.
So be careful.
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