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writes:I need help with this guy (lets call him andy)I first met andy when he came to my flat with two of his friends for a party, i spent the whole time getting a chat on with andy and eventually andy and his friend got up to leave but invited me and my friend to theirs. we went and spent the whole day drinking and chatting. I got on really well andy and over the next 2weeks we texted nonstop and after nights out i would go back to his and watch movies, the closest we got to doing anything was snuggling in bed, which felt so lovely and comfortable. Then one day when i was going round to his to watch a dvd he changed. I brought my friend with me and when we arrived at his he looked really annoyed, he was really sarcastic with and after like 20mins of the film he said he was heading to the 24hour bakery which was 2mins away from his and 2hours later he still hadnt come back. he left us in his flat and i texted asking if he was coming back, he didnt reply so we left. Just when i thought it was starting to go somewhere he stopped replying to my texts, after a few days i texted him telling him i really liked him (as in more than a friend) but he still didnt reply. i gave up but then 3weeks later i got a text out of the blue from 02s website saying along the lines of "i have no credit to text you, phone for a chat please. im sorry i dont have credit" i had a feeling it was from andy but i wasnt sure so i just ignored it. Then a few weeks later we bumped into each other on a night out. he didnt speak to me but spent the whole night looking over, i was really annoyed cause i always made the effort to talk to him so i got chatting to another guy who was buying my drinks in a stupid attempt to make andy jealous. i left the club with this guy and when we were walking back to his im almost positive andy saw us together. I wasnt interested in this other guy so i just walked home, when i finally got in i recieved a text from andys phone but it was werid cause it came up like "you have recieved a text from 07.......(andys number) who would like you to call them as they have no credit". I felt really nervous but i phoned him anyway and he was asking me to go to his, i didnt want to walk all the back so i said if he wanted to see me he could come to mine, he agreed but asked if i could pay half his taxi cause he didnt have enough. I said i'll phone him back but just went to sleep cause i thought he could easily walk. Ever since then ive phoned him a few times after nights out and we both got annoyed, i was angry he didnt speak to me in underground and he was annoyed i never phoned him when he sent that first text, that i didnt speak to him in underground and that i fell alseep when he was gonna come over. He also promised me he would come round one day and never, he also never texted to say sorry. Then one day at like 12pm i got a text saying "alright my dear, what you upto? can i come to yours?" my friends thought it would be funny to hide my phone and before i noticed i missed 2 calls of him. its the last ive heard from him and that was a month ago. ive texted him a few drunken texts that have ranged from "im over you" to "come to mine" and "i really adore you but your hurting me". embarrassing i know!! I know it sounds like a lost cause but just when i move on he comes back into my life and im back at square one. If he wasnt interested then why after he saw me in underground did he want to see me?? its all confusing. But it has been a month since he last spoke to me and roughly 16days since i last text him. Can you please help with your opinions and thoughts as to what he is playing at? and also one more thing, im planning on inviting him to my flatwarming but im not sure which would be better a text aimed for everyone, for example "hey lads wer having a housewarming...." or a more personal one aimed just for him "hi andy....". they both have their advantages and disadvantages but which one would be better?? Thankyou xxx
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (9 June 2010):
 Ergh, you guys sound like you're mind-gaming each other to death! Write a mass msg, but just change each one by adding the persons name at the top and if you want to personalize his a bit more you can. Give it one more shot, if you can't work out where you both stand after that then its probably not worth the effort in my opinion.
Best of luck :)
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