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writes:I need some post break up advice. I have recently broken up with my long term girlfriend an it is completely final. Because we've been together a long time, we have a lot of shared friends. When we first broke up, we didn't tell many people apart from immediate and really close friends, but now word is slowly starting to get around and I don't know what to do.I'm getting messages from a lot of our friends asking if its true we have split and offering their sympathy to us both. As much as this is nice, I am starting to receive these messages constantly and having to answer questions like "is there no hope?" and "do you think you will get back together?" and "what happened?" over and over again is making the break up difficult. I know I could just say to these people I don't want to talk about it, but that doesn't' stop all these messages coming through. People need to know we've broken up - we get invited to a lot of stuff as a couple, so I need to find a way of just telling everyone its over so that I don't get all these messages coming through.How do I do that?I changed my facebook status to single and hoped that might do the trick and everyone would just guess but it hasn't worked.Our close family members also know but again there's lots of aunties and uncles and cousins who are starting to find out.What is the etiquette here?
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reader, oldbag +, writes (6 July 2014):
 If just one friend and one family member knows then the news spreads fast.
As for replying to everyone, you don't have to explain to anyone the reasons or chances of getting back together.
Time will answer everyone's questions. So, in the meantime if your quizzed in person, just say 'I don't want to discuss this'.
Ignore social network comments.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (6 July 2014):
 I don't think there is a post-break up etiquette that you HAVE to follow.
I would just tell whomever as they ask about it. Sooner or later they will all know. If they ask if there is any hope, just let them know that it was mutual and no, neither of you want to get back together (or whatever you feel like telling them).
Or post it to your wall for ALL to see. They may not pay attention to your status.
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