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writes:I have been in a LDR relationship for a year. I know that I truly love him and I haven't got any doubts about my feelings for him but I'm starting to question whether this relationship works. He has gone away to another continent to do this internship for a month and a half which is totally great and I support this decision. But right now he's not sure whether we can reunite any time soon. He says he might not be able to afford to fly back to Europe now (although his internship is finished) and rent a flat here with me. Meaning he might want to stay where he is right now. I can't afford to fly to him. He says he loves me more than anything and misses me and I trust him. And I don't think that anyone is to blame. He is following his dreams and it's great. But the problem is I am not happy without him. We are in a relationship but we're leading two separate lives. Freedom is great and I encourage that in relationships but there should be some form of togetherness. I was really hoping we could spend at least some time together in summer because in September we will both go to universities in different countries which means not seeing each other for a long time. I have been patient and waited for him before but now I just feel anxious all the time asking myself if we are both ready for this relationship. I want to share my life with him and be with him more than anything in the world. Texting and skyping doesn't cut it. I sometimes feel very disconnected and lonely. How do I go about this? I am so confused. I know I will never stop loving him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2014): Ldr. I would never do one again. It's too theoretical and full of problems. I was in one for months but it was so difficult to see each other. We had so many expectations, really unnatural. Give it a deadline. If you don't manage to stay together one full month before the end of the year, end it before it gets nasty. Good luck!
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reader, elsiecrane  +, writes (9 July 2014):
If I were you, Id keep in touch with him. Plan to see eachother in the future. If he seems resistant to future visits, theres something up. In the meanwhile, keep an open mind, you dot necessarily look for someone else, but keep yoir options open. There s plenty of time for being tied down, enjoy freedom while ypu have it!
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