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writes:I met this guy on msn and hes done some bad things to me but ive done some bad things to him as well. i really really really like him [kinda sorta love] he loves me too, but we have never met. i cant imagine life without him to be very honest, but i am worried that when we actually do meet up he wont like me. he told me that he likes me for me and that it wont matter how i am because he knows who i really am....is this stupid??
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2009): No it's not stupid. We all worry about what others think of us. It's easy to have illusions about other people and meeting up will give you both a better idea of what you are really like. Better that than waste time wondering!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2009): don't meet him…you ever watch "to catch a predator" on abc?
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reader, bronwyn +, writes (4 April 2009):
I've been doing the chat thing and virtual stuff for many years. And I'm older than you :). I'll tell ya something- online relationships are not real. You get very close very fast because you feel you can be more honest with this person who doesnt know you. Then you feel that you have a spiritual bond that transcends the physical- looks dont matter, just minds and hearts. But when you and this person "break up", it takes approximately 3 days to totally get over it. Were those feelings that you had in real life, it would hurt for months, years, decades...who knows. I have seen it happen over the past 10 years so many times I cannot even guess at how many. Save your heart for someone you meet for real. You'll just overlook something real and good if you invest your everything in this guy. You could meet and chances are very very likely that it will be like meeting just any random guy with no attraction to him at all- there's a reason why you aren't attracted to every boy you see, no matter how nice. That reason is chemistry. BUT BOTTOM LINE IS DO NOT MEET THIS PERSON UNLESS HE COMES WITH HIS PARENTS AND YOU GO WITH YOURS. Sounds unromantic but do you have a clue how many 50 year old nasty horrible men are posing as high school boys online? They can be incredibly convincing. Unless the idea of being hogtied with duct tape over your mouth in the back of some very bad man's van heading toward some very bad place for a very bad time appeals to you, you'll scratch the idea altogether.
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reader, Tewebag +, writes (4 April 2009):
yeah i agree, it is very bad to meet some random person online. you never know who they really are. Im a 21 year old female from China. I have one child and was married for three years untell i was widowed when my husband was shot in a car jacking gone bad. I now live in USA with my child. see im not really any of that, not my age (18), i dont have a child, i live in america, but how would you know that for sure unless i told you that wasnt me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2009): It's a bad idea to get involved with someone over a chat room. This person could be dangerous and you don't really know anything about him. How could you love him if you don't know him?
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