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writes:5 days ago I dumped my girlfriend that I have had for 6 months. I wanted to be single and I honestly think about my ex a lot. I love her still but she is with another man. It stinks, to say the least.So after the break up I see my ex's tumblr full off posts relating to me. I see a vid by my fav band, a picture I took of her, a drawing I did of her, and two posts about my favorite movie. The biggest thing is a post on her blog that says, "I just want to change every thing". Also she posted song lyrics of one of my fav songs entitled chasing a ghost of a good thing. Now I get on there two days later and they have mostly been deleted. Her boyfriend follows me and her on tumblr,Facebook, etc. He must have seen it. How do I tell her I still love her/want her/think about her every day. I have to do it and am willing to even if it means getting an embarrassing response. What is the most romantic way?TLDR: what is the most romantic way to win over an ex that is dating someone else?
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reader, FENNECH  +, writes (25 February 2012):
She` got on with her life. She`s got on with it at super speed, so maybe dumping her was a blessing in disguise. I think you only want her back because it`s made you realise she CAN live without you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2012): it doesn't reflect well on you to break up and then 5 days be trying to get her back. It makes you look wishy washy and unable to make a decision.
that said, if you're sure you want her back, just be direct and honest. but realize that since you were the one who dumped her, you're going to have to be convincing of why you want her back now and why you're not just gonna dump her again in another 5 days time.
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reader, bronzed adonis  +, writes (24 February 2012):
 So after only 5 days after dumping her she`s with someone? I don`t think she was any more committed than you were. It will never work.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (24 February 2012):
 Ok so 5 days ago you dumped her and already she has a new boyfriend?
There is not a shot in hell that you can win her back. She was done before she got dumped.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2012): "What is the most romantic way to win over an ex who is dating someone else?"
Respect she's dating someone else, and wait until she's single.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (24 February 2012):
 She already has a new BF?
Let it go, bro. There is a reason you two broke up in the first place. You two didn't work. It happens.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (24 February 2012):
 Look, I honestly dont think either of you are right for each other and this relationship is not going to work.
Why did you want to be single? Why do you now want her back? What changed in 5 days? Surely you still want to be single, that feeling cant have gone away so quickly?
And as for your ex - she obviously felt very little for you because she has moved on so quickly. If she really loved you then she would have been gutted, she would never have been able to get involved with another man so quickly. And you have to think about this, how did she meet a guy and then decide for him to be her new boyfriend within 5 days? I think she has to have been talking to him while she was with you, because you cant meet someone new and then get into a relationship within 5 days.
So chances are she was cheating on you, or talking to another guy behind your back. Either way, she has a new man and she doesnt want you anymore.
Cut your losses and move on, she has moved on so there is no point in chasing her, you will just make a fool out of yourself.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, Myau +, writes (24 February 2012):
 You don't want her back. You dumped her for a reason.
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reader, Dear Mandy +, writes (24 February 2012):
 HI
It could be she is on the rebound, so using this guy to make you jealous....However I agree with aunty bimbim, neither of you seem mature enough for a long lasting relationship yet. You DUMPED her after 6 months because you wanted to be single ( why is that? did you see someone else you like)? as the grass isn't always greener on the other side. After less than a week you want her back, she is probably still very hurt and angry, and like I said on the rebound,, no one likes to feel unwanted, and being dumped is the worst feeling. I would just talk to her first, I wouldn't try to woo her back I doubt she would be in the mood to be wooed back into your arms right now. IF she does take you back, I suggest you take this relationship seriously and do all you can to make up for dumping her like that ( and mean it ) not just because you have seen her with someone else!
Mandy x
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (24 February 2012):
 You dumped her after 6 months 5 days ago.
You wanted to be single.
She has a new boyfriend.
That was quick work!
I'm not sure romance will be the cure in this case, neither of you seem to have the emotional maturity needed to sustain and maintain a romantic relationship that will endure more than a few weeks.
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