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writes:hi I needed advice one day my gf randomly called me crying and said we need a break. I told her I really really love her and if that's what you need I love you so much I will wait for you for however long it takes, she said that she loves me truly but she is not sure if I'm the one. She explained she just doesn't know if this is how it's supposed to feel like, she keeps getting thoughts we're not supposed to be, this all happend at around 10 00 at night, then after all of this I said ok I will let you figure it out. The next day buy lunch time she calls me (she never ever calls me at work, and askes if I can come over, well I do and I give her her break, I treat her like a friend and she just suddennly a few minutes after I'm there hugs me and kisses me then I ask her about it and she says I couldnt help it. She goes on to say were together again and that all this is her problem she will have to fix, we're togther again but she seems kinda sad every time she looks at me when we're talking,what is goign on
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reader, zelgamer +, writes (24 October 2008):
 My wife did that to me twice when we were dating. At the time I believe she did doubt me, because her previous relationships all ended up cheating on her, and here I come, basically saying all the things they said, but I meant everything.
It wasn't until we got serious in the relationship that she starting freaking out... It depends. The situation can be a lot of thing, but if you love her, I say have a heart to heart talk with her, as another user said here, let her get everything out of her chest. Listen, and go from there.
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reader, shandygirl +, writes (27 September 2008):
 She sounds scared. When someone is afraid to get into a relationship with someone who they are extremely attracted to, they try to push that person away, perhaps out of the fear of being eventually heartbroken by that person.
I knew someone who was like that with her boyfriend. she tried to push him away at least once a week, and torchered him with it for 2 years. Well, she finally got over that fear, and they are now married.
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reader, Mommy Dearest +, writes (26 September 2008):
 Is it possible that she was unfaithful and after ward felt bad? Some women make that mistake and feel as if they shouldn't be with you. Yet can't tell you because she doesn't want to loose you. I would sit her down and tell her that you love her, but you notice that something is off. Give her a chance to get things off her chest. Tell her that that talk is a safe zone and you promise what ever she has to say that you will not leave and you will work threw it. This is what some women need sometimes. To know that you aren't going to walk out on them.
I could be way off base but I still think you need to give her that chance and that safe zone talk.
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