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female
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41-50,
*ohurts27
writes:I left my husband around a year ago because he was verbally and physically abusive to me. We are still married but don't live together, even though we weren't living together we were still spending time together as a family having a sexual relationship with each other and even made attempts at counseling so over the past year. I have been under the impression that we were going to try and make things work. Well in June of this year my husband revealed to me that he is cheating with a woman who met while working out of town. He has now moved 8 hours away to be with this woman and my biggest fear is that he will be that man to her that I wanted him to be for me. What is the likelihood that their relationship will last? He is also lying to her, he hasn't told her that we're still married and that we've had sex since they've been together. Do you think their relationship will last? An how do I move on?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2010): first of all, separation rarely works, and that has what haapened with you. If he is picked by other women, you can not help it now. in most likely situation you may lose him, since that women supported him, when you could not live with him. So in my opinion, for your husband, he should marry the other women and you too should get divorced. you try to get other husband who fits to your expectations, if you think there is a one.
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reader, cwgrlup +, writes (24 September 2010):
Sorry you have to deal with this. But the good news is you arent living with him anymore. I have been in 2 different abusive relationships and now I work with victims of domestic violence, and trust me when I tell you he is not going to turn into the man you wanted him to be just because he is with someone new. Both of my ex's abuse their current partners. Domestic Violence is a learned behavior and it VERY rarely goes away. Yes they will be happy for the first little while during the "honemoon" stage of their relationship, but it wont last! My advice to you is to cut ties with this jerk, stop having sex with him and soon your self confidence will come back and you will see that you made the right decision! But if you have any questions or need help let me know! Good luck!
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