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36-40,
*andygurl
writes:I'm having my first child a baby girl and my hmegurl/godmother insisted on trowing me a baby shower. Next month is the baby shower. Every since I decided to have one I been feeling confused about the job of being a host. I have brought the decorations. I have brought the invites. Iam buying the food and the cake too. Its becoming stressful for me because I'm in the situation where I'm not working and don't have any money to be spending I have a lot of bills that have to be payed. My mother won't help because my lil sister had her 1st baby also and my mother went out and spend lots of money for her babyshower but cancelled it because my lil sister was acting like a bitch so she feels as thought since she didn't her one I can't have one here which to me is not fair but she did agreed to help cook. I done everything to even buying gift cards for the games and party favors to take home. If u noticed I did and brought everything. Not once did she buy anything or gave me money for the shower. Everytime we go out I'm always buyin the supplies we need even to when I get hungry I'm buying me and her food to eat. Sometimes I feel like I'm being taken advantage of. All I have left to do is really work on getting the cake she's want me to get this 3d cake and I did pricing and there are expensive. How do I tell her how I feel without hurting her feelings and not making her change her mind of being my host. I always been open but I tend to come off a lil agressive to the point I know she will say fuck everything.
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reader, followtheblackrabbit  +, writes (29 September 2010):
 Oh wow, actually, since you're expecting someone else should have bought all the supplies (invites, cake, food etc). It's like you are throwing yourself a shower! You don't have to get agressive though, just tell her, "I'm not making a lot of money right now and with the baby coming, I can't afford to be extravegant." OR since you're paying for the cake, just buy one that's to YOUR liking. Your money, your rules. If you're afraid you're gonna come off agressive, simply write her an e-mail or text. But really, as the host, she should have handled everything and let you relax. That's the way I see it.
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