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writes:What the expiry date on a lie. When we were teenagers my girlfriend never turned up for a date. I went on to marry this girl and later find out she went out on a date with your best friend instead. Does the lie invalidate everything inbetween? like you would never carried on seeing her if you knew, bought her roses, looked longingly into her eyes.What do you think?
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reader, maxsteel86 +, writes (20 March 2008):
 To quote Dr. House from the TV show house "The longest lasting relationships are those that are based on a lie. You're off to a good start" geez, never thought I'd find a situation to use that one:-P
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2008): When a lie is used to sway someones next action. The liar is looking to gain a favourable outcome at the other persons expense. If your wife was to have told you at the time, you would not have taken things further. Imagine a pensioner saying i had an affair when i was nineteen to his wife. Is wife would be rightly pissed off.Any relationship built on a lie is not a real relationship, because one persons actions have been controlled by the other person duping them.You have to evaluate what youve got to loose or even if its real.Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2008): Sounds like she settled for second best, like she feels she could do better, but better has yet to arrive.
Hopefully, she has improved, otherwise your up for a rocky road.
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reader, Dazzerg +, writes (20 March 2008):
 Well I think the expiry date on a lie is when it ceases to become relevant to your present day lives. It may feel like everything in-between is invalidated but I certainly don't think it does because the reality is that you were both young and maybe did things you regretted. If anything the in-between bits are more validated now then they were before because she obviously fell for you.
I assume that there is nothing to indicate she is anything but faithful and honest now. Sometimes the past is best left precisely there, in the past...she chose you and not your friend and you should be happy with that and not let it ruin what you have.
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