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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:well , the story is that from about 1 month felt tht i like some guy in the college and i thought he liked me 2 coz he couldn't stop lookin at me wherever i go .. and from a week exactly we set down together and just talked and talked he liked me and i did 2 then we became together and when he told me tht he loves me i really felt tht he meant tht .. then he begun 2 show me his ex gf picture and how much he loved her and some special thing he did with her .. i felt tht he still loves her but i didn't express tht .. then just one day left and he was perfect and so romantic and so in love with me the next day he made me feel like i'm his sis or sort of .. i felt like he wants to tell me 2 break up but with a gentle way .. i told him what i feel tht it appears tht he's not in love with me .. he told me 2 be friends till we know each other much better and he said noone knows what will happen .. i refused and said just don't want us 2 talk anymore .. now i wanna make him feel tht i forgot about him and tht i accept him as a friend 4 ever .. would tht make him kinda regret .. and how is the best way to say it to make him feel tht i really don't care about him as a boyfriend .. ??
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2009): If I understand you correctly, you have affection for a boy that you have been dating a short time, and that you think he is in love with his ex girlfriend and he is not calling you his official girlfriend and that makes you feel rejected and you want to try to make him think you don't really care about him that way in order to make him turn around and want you as his girlfriend.
Is that about right? He says to you he wants to be friends and take things slow to see what happens and get to know each other better. I think that sounds reasonable. I think you wanting to be his girlfriend so soon and wanting him to profess his love to you this early is a bit too much too soon. If you like him, continue to just date him and get to know him to see if you want to be in love with him. Love is a choice after all. The best way to get his attention and to get him to step up is to continue to date other men. Don't put everything you have, your time, your heart into this one guy who hasn't claimed you as the one he wants to love forever because to him you are simply dating each other.
Good Luck.
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