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writes:Hi everyone, I'm gonna tell you the story. So I have a crush on this 7th grader whose very cute,sweet but very shy (every time she sees me in the canteen she really avoids me and when we cross paths around the campus she goes the other way. Btw, our campus is very huge). So last month our mutual friend asked me if I have a girlfriend (that time i have a LDR with a girl. So i said yes) because a friend of her wants to know. At first I wanted to know who's asking but she didn't tell me but complimented me because I'm becoming a hearthrob in the 7th grade class. So i decided to bug her until she tells me. In a couple of days, she finally cracked and she told me that the one whose asking if I have a girlfriend is the 7th grader I have crush on. At that time I decided to break up with my GF. So now that I've break up with her. I want to ask her out. Firstly, I planned to ask for her number until i get comfortable with her(cause I always get tongue-tied when I talk to someone I really really like) but until now I still haven't ask her for her number. She's shy and I'm shy and I don't know what to do.What's the best way to approach her in school cause that's the only place where I know she's there. I can't directly ask her for her number in front of her classmates. If I do that I might get tongue-tied and probably embarass myself.Btw my classmates tell me we're the perfect match because were both wear "eyeglasses". Should I get offended?Thanks for your advice in advance.Hope I get good advice.^_^
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reader, Abella  +, writes (18 October 2012):
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No the age difference is much better than I thought.
I often forget that I was always the youngest in my class. I was allowed to start school early. So in year seven I was still 10 at the start of the year 7 school year. It was far too young. OK, she is 13 and you are 14. Please prepare yourself for the fact that teenage relationships are often full of crushes that do not last.
And prepare yourself for the fact that you must show this girl complete respect at all times. She can only ever be your platonic friend until she has reached the age of 16. So she is not to be treated to unfair cajoling on your part for kisses she does not want to give.
After sixteen and you seventeen you will be more mature. And if you are together still when you are 17 and she is 16 the love could blossom later.
Just take it slowly and be a gentleman and respectful.
Girls sometimes like jokes. Nice ones. Not smutty ones.
Girls LOVE you to listen to them. Girls like you being courteous and well mannered when in their company.
Next time you see her sit down in the canteen walk over to a table she has sat down at - especially prefer the days she is alone. And walk over to her and ask, "Is it OK for me to sit here?" Bring a book with you. Start as if you are going to read the book. And do read a little. Then look up and say her name and ask, "....(name) do you like reading? (then pause, so she think up something)and then also ask,
" who's your favourite author"
Always use a girls (her) name in the conversation at least once, preferably twice.
Listen to her carefully.
Remember whath she says
Turn up for lunch the next day the same time, same place.
Have another conversation with her the next day.
if she is not there then try some different times and tell her that you have missed her when you see her again.
One step at a time. Patienc will win a lady
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2012): Hello, I'm the one who asked the question. Btw I'm 14 and she's 13 is the age difference too much?
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reader, Abella +, writes (17 October 2012):
A seventh grader is very very young.
Can you guarantee that you only want to be platonic friends with her? you can crush on her, but that's about it.
And at 13-15 you may already be too old for a seventh grader? Maybe not too old in four years time. But right now, yes, you may be too old.
If you are genuine with her then you are in for a long wait before the age difference cease to be a problem, for you.
Wearing spectacles is entirely normal
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reader, Abella +, writes (17 October 2012):
A seventh grader is very very young.
Can you guarantee that you only want to be platonic friends with her? you can crush on her, but that's about it.
And at 13-15 you may already be too old for a seventh grader? Maybe not too old in four years time. But right now, yes, you may be too old.
If you are genuine with her then you are in for a long wait before the age difference cease to be a problem, for you.
Wearing spectacles is entirely normal
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