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writes:I need a quick answer to this problem, any advice is appreciated.I am going to have a one on one meeting with my girlfriend this week, she is going to decide between myself and another man. Im assuming her mind will be made upWhat is the best way I can persuade her to be with me?Any professional speakers out there that can give me a few quick pointers on speaking and power of persuasion Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI would like to greatly thank those who answered here is an update..the week went by and there was no contact. So I decided to call her. I emailed her first and she said it was ok to call.
I called her and was fairly blunt, I said where are you or we at? if anywhere....If It was the other guy which I expected I was going to make a quick exit off the phone at that was it....She said Im still thinking ,dont know where my head and heart are ,just trying to get a hold on everything....I was a little surprised and told her so as I thought she was going to tell me she was leaving....I basically told her let me know what she decides. WE talked for a few minutes and left it at that.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (29 May 2012):
 There is NOTHING you can do or say that will make her change her mind. The fact that you are willing to even entertain such a thought is upsetting.
What amazes me is that you think so little of yourself that you are willing to accept the crumbs of someone that has to choose between YOU and someone else… Personally you should not make her make the choice and you should not settle for her crumbs. In fact, you should call her and tell her there is no point in meeting up together since you no longer feel that you want to be with her. Be proactive. End it with her… do not settle for her. Because if she is making the choice between you and someone else now, even if she picks you, clearly later on she will find someone else that she needs to make this choice with again and again…. Does not sound like a very stable relationship.
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reader, Siteme +, writes (29 May 2012):
 Well to be truthful, it seems she may be playing a game. Any woman that is "making a decision between two men is playing. She must have a very large ego, especially right now. If she says, "I'm going with the other guy", the best thing to do is to get up and say ok, I've got a date. If she is upset by this, I would tell her, you had to pick between two girls, but it was easier that she chose for you. This girl will be trouble to you in the future if you hook up with her. Seriously.... I have three sons and they got into this with a few women and it was a matter of them playing drama games.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (27 May 2012):
 Clearly if you're the better choice, then there's no need for persuasion techniques.
If her mind is made up, you should be adult enough to accept her decision as it comes. There's no need to basically beg her to stay with you. I'm sorry, but trying to talk her out of going with the other guy is rather pathetic. Be mature and respect her decision either way.
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