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writes: I know this is probably going to be really stupid. I am a grown woman, but I have come across a feeling ive never had before and its made me feel like a teenager again.I met a guy a couple of years ago and there was an instant attraction. I felt like I had been hit by a truck with the strength of the feeling. It was like I knew he was the man I was going to marry. Or that is what it felt like at the time. We became very close, altho never lovers due to him having a partner at the time but sadly he moved away for work. We are still in contact, he is single and has moved back. And I still feel as convinced as I did then that this is the man for me. I dont know why, I cant put my finger on it, its just a deep seated feeling.Am I being totally naive? is this feeling normal? Does it exist, or is it wishful thinking on my part?I want to be able to deal with this, but I am struggling. Do people just know when they meet the person they are ment to be with? Reply to this Question Share |
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSo are you saying it could never happen?
Even tho we share so much? Its all just a fantasy?
At the moment, he doesnt want to hurt me by not being there enough. He said he cares too much about me and rather than get into something which he then cannot give 100% to, he would rather keep things as they are. He says he would never do anything to hurt me, but with things going on in his life at the moment he cant be there as he wants to be.
Ive never felt like this about anyone before.
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reader, AnnieLuck +, writes (18 September 2010):
I think lust, love and attraction all really do cloud reality. There is NO way of knowing whether someone is absolutely right for you. If that was the case, divorce and separation wouldn't exist! However if you are feeling particularly emotional about this guy, then speak to him about it and see how he feels about you now. Why are you struggling to understand how you feel, it is normal to connect with some people and not others. If you are single and so is he why not get in touch?
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