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*ddJoe
writes:I am needing some advice,I have been single since 2003 and don't get out much at all. I have been single ever since my divorce. When I go out in public and see someone I like, they act like I'm a creep or something. The area where I live is kinda a small beach town, and am not very well liked around here. I used to move around a lot and have always had the same problem. I have tried a few dating sites, but had no luck. Am wondering what is so wrong with me. The friends I do have say I am very honest, loyal, smart, outgoing, ect. So whats the hold up? Yes I do have a few bad things, like my looks are not the best, and have bi-polar. But would that mean I should always be single and alone? I have kinda given up on relationships. Any advice would be great.
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reader, Kenj  +, writes (11 March 2010):
 No dont give up. Try on-line dating for longer. I met my girlfriend online (well she found me) and we have a great relationship.
What do you think is the problem why women see you as creepy?
Looks are not as important as you think and being bi-polar is not your fault.
Sure it can put a strain on a relationship but there will be someone out there for you who sees past your problems and loves you for who you are.
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reader, veronika  +, writes (11 March 2010):
 I think you need to analise your own behaviour. What do you think, exactly, is it that makes women feel creeped out? I know personally that if I am creeped out by a guy it is generally because he's too clingy. Sometimes people just seem creepy by their actions.
I'm not trying to say you are a creepy person, just that there are some things people do that seem odd to others.
I don't know what's 'wrong' with you. My guess is there's nothing really 'wrong' with you. Being bi-polar doesn't mean you cannot be in relationships, and neither does being 'below average' when it comes to looks (MOST people are not actually that attractive by society's high standards).
There is obviously something about the way you present yourself that is off putting to women, and I'm not talking about appearance - more in the way you carry yourself. I can't tell you what that is, because I haven't met you. But maybe just try to analyse your behaviour a bit, and if acting a certain way around women isn't working, try another way.
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