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writes:Well, it's been a long time since I've had sex, which was a few years back, but my question is... Why do people insist on saying that relationships are special?What is so special about an intimate relationship? Is it possible (just possible) that love or sex is overrated and we are all just kidding ourselves when we talk about these kind of things?What exactly is so special about love? Or lust? Be honest.Are we all just a bunch on liars living in a fantasy land?
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (27 September 2010):
 Whether you are stuffed in the head or not, one thing is for sure...you'll never be confused with Mary Sunshine.
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reader, BettyBoup  +, writes (27 September 2010):
 Oh and you're not stuffed up in the head. I've been seriously depressed and suicidal in fact. Sometimes its hard to see the point. Does it matter? If you can't find something/someone in life that brings you happiness and meaning, you're still gonna die! You may as well make the most of now. That's all that is certain.
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reader, BettyBoup +, writes (27 September 2010):
I can understand all of your points of view. It is true that people find relationships because they are lonely. This may well not be a good reason for this, but it is a basic human need. I agree that the only way to true happiness is to learn to be happy by yourself. After all, you are the only thing that is certain in your life. The whole world can change, but you have control over you.
I can hear that some of you have been let down and greatly dissappointed in past relationships. You say that some things are "overrated, or NOT WORTH THE WAIT". It seems that you have been expecting relationships to be something amazing and worth waiting for. It's true the media portracys romance as wonderful and flawless. But of course this is a fantasy. Relationships are what YOU make them. As is life.
If you rely on outside entities or situations to bring you joy, then you are going to be disappointed! You cannot expect another person to come along and give you happiness. Life doesn't work that way. You have to find joy in your OWN life, then to share that joy with another person, who also loves life, THAT is where you find true love.
We all lose our love for life at one time and another. We are all waiting to die essentially. But why count down the days? Isn't that just boring? Why not make the most of what you've got and choose to be happy? Get out there and push yourself to be the best person you can and experience life in as many ways possible? Yeh it's hard, getting out of your comfort zone. But it beats sitting around waiting to die. Does it not?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2010): "Everyday when I wake up in the morning, I always feel great because I know that I'm one day closer to death"
I know exactly how you feel because I feel the same. You're not "stuffed up in the head" you're just saying how you feel. I think people/relationships/life are ALL overrated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes Betty Boup, we all create our own beliefs and our own fantasies. I'm just saying that there are some things in life that might be overrated, or NOT WORTH THE WAIT.
But you have given me an interesting perspective. I will go away and have a think about what you've said.
Maybe I'm all stuffed up in the head. Who knows?
Everyday when I wake up in the morning, I always feel great because I know that I'm one day closer to death. Life, for me, has just been one disappointment after another. You understand? Eh? Eh? Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha!!
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reader, BettyBoup +, writes (26 September 2010):
I disagree. Relationships(of all kinds ie friendships, family, partner) are extremely special, in my opinion. I've had many special connections with people in the past that have really touched me and shaped who I am. Do you know that feeling when you just know that person truely sees you, understands who you are and accepts you? When you see that person and appreciate what a beautiful person they are? You witness each others souls and recognise yourself in that person? (I know this sounds like hippy bull, but it's the best way I can describe my experience)
That connection may well be complete fantasy. But all human life experience is essentially a fantasy. The jobs we have, the money and possessions we have. It's all created by us. It's a fantasy. We are basically all animals, living our lives on a planet, attempting to reproduce, trying to survive as long as we can, but essentially waiting to die. We just happen to be conscious of this process and how we deal with this is up to us. What is real and what is special to us, is whatever we create for ourselves, in our minds. And sharing that experience with another person or other people is the greatest joy there is. In my opinion. If you disagree, then have fun with whatever brings you happiness. You don't have to connect to others if that means nothing to you! But for me, love, sex, intimacy, friendship, having a laugh and connecting with people, is the greatest high there is on earth.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your answers. I believe people say relationships are special because they are lonely, and they don't want to admit that it's all bullshit. People are great liars. If they want to believe that THEIR relationship are special, that's fine.
But I don't need anyone fuck'n telling me that my relationships are special because they're not.
Life and love are both overrated if you ask me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2010): I have to agree with you. Relationships are not special, they just fulfill certain needs. The need to connect with others, the need to feel someone loves us and needs us, the need to feel that we make a difference to someone's life. That's all it is. The way I see it, I came into this world on my own and I will leave it on my own. Everything else in between is just a distraction to pass the time.
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reader, Rosygirls92  +, writes (25 September 2010):
Well um, it's prolly all thru the media and songs n stuff. Personally I've never had relationship and I've never really been bothered much. But it all depends on who u are i guess
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