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writes: I've been talking to this guy online for 6 years, we flirt online and last night we met. He put his arm round me and i kissed him. we ended up making out for 3 hours and then we went to sleep. this morning he just seemed to want me gone so i left. i text him and said will this be awkward now but he avoided the question, i want things to be ok between us but i don't know what to say if he'll aviod me ... help?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2010): His actions could relate to many reasons. Maybe he was insecure about his performance and was ebarrased. Maybe he wasnt a nice guy and was using you. Or maybe he is hiding something, Dont keep texting him though, one text is enough, men dont cope very well with constant texts, if he is a decent guy, he will get in touch... some men need time to get used to things, 6 years talking but never meeting eachother is a long time, and he may have hidden behind the internet and been clever and confident on the internet conversations but pehaps in real life, face to face senarios his confidence isnt so high! My advice- give him time, move on and let him come to you. Dont wait for him because you wont be dissapointed if he doesnt contact you but will be pleased if he does. :) Good luck. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2010): Here we go again - someone who has wasted her time with an 'Internet' romance. There is NO such thing. 6yrs? really? And what was the reason he did not could not meet you before?Even at two years - even at 2 days, Really people - I agree with the others - you cannot find someone ONLINE to have a relationship with. Just as for Facebook and Classmates and etc and etc. Instead get out and MEET people in groups of the things that interest you. Perhaps the Meet-up Groups might work but no matter where you go you must be cautious.Good luck to you - I would ignore anything else he has to txt.
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reader, SweetindianGirl  +, writes (25 September 2010):
idk i think it was sketchy that you even slept over if you met him for the first tiem?! you should have went back home and then went to go to see him! believe it or not, i had a similar problem, except i met the guy of my dreams and then we kept intouch through the internet/ phone for 2 years before we met. when we met we were extremely scared of one another bc of the fear of losing. his fear went away where as mine remained. and i know you want answers but the best thgin to do is just be casual now! act like you dont care and nothng happened.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2010): Relationships over the Internet can be incredibly complicated. It's easy for either party to hide key facts about themselves (whether they're married, whether they're in a relationship, their jobs, who they really are, essentially). It's pretty probable that this guy has something he hasn't divulged to you, and forcing you to leave early in the morning was the only way he could hide his secret - or even hide you from his secret.
I'm not saying he is, in fact, lying or hiding something, but it certainly sounds that way if he couldn't wait to be rid of you. Was alcohol a factor in this? Sometimes alcohol acts too much to release inhibitions, so it's also probable he was alarmed to find you still there, sleeping next to him, or he realized what sort of situation he was really in.
Either way, this is the first time you've met the guy in six years. If he really wanted to be your friend and spend time with you, you would've done this years ago, yes? I'd say if he doesn't come around and respond to your texts, who cares? All you've lost is a little Internet flirting. You should try to find someone NOT online to have a relationship with, someone you know is real and honest.
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