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writes:Hi fellow aunts and uncles :)I was just hoping you could offer me some advice... What is it about guys and texting!? So there's this guy I saw the other day for drinks with friends, about the fourth time we've met (we've kissed previously). The next day he sends me a lovely text message but has since not replied to my subesequent text. My reply was casual and friendly, not clingy. I understand not coming on too strong and everything, I don't intend to send another message but for goodness sake a short text isn't a big deal, is it? He text me first!!! Is he playing hard to get or is he not interested? Every indication so far is that he likes me. Uncles, some advice? I realise girls read too much into silly little issues like this but indulge me please:). Thanks LD x x x
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reader, Niki321  +, writes (13 December 2011):
yeah, i know, most men treat texting different from women. when we reply right away, it takes them to text you back hours or they even don't at all. that makes mad smtimes. but once my bf told me, hey i hate texting, i know if imma reply you once, you'll keep the convo going n i'm busy at work, so anyway u'll get offended i don't reply you right away, whenever i text you once, i get 5 texts back right away... nnnnn, that's true. women think faster and women think! smtimes i feel like if i look inside woman's head i won't see any light there, full of smth)) n when you look inside man's head it's gonna be so light, cuz it's empty! not that they're dummies, it's just women like to talk, to think a lot...There's a community called TheNextText.com, you can post your threads and get the next text advice if you're not sure what to say... Luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey :) Thanks for the advice. I've taken it on board. Have since had a reply and have sent a text back. So the whole thing starts again! Haha. I'm trying to be less bothered.LD x x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2011): Men get distracted and bored easily. He's probably busy doing something else and has forgotten to reply.
I've been told that guys don't feel they need to reply straight away. A text is more impersonal and some people feel like you don't need to reply that second.
If he is interested then you'll hear from him. Don't panic.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (11 February 2011):
 Look at how much you're thinking about him. His little text landed right on the mark!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2011): Relax hehe, the thing with texts is they're always situational. He might have text you to tell you he had a good night while on a quick break. Or he might have gotten a severe case of diarrhea or fallen down the stairs or put his phone away or it might have been on silent or etc etc.
Relax if this was anyone else for any other reason you'd probably understand but you're experiencing 'new guy' nerves and are reading into every little situation too deeply. Just relax.
Don't worry about it, he could just be one of these 'takes ages to reply' texters, let me tell you girls are the worst for it. You text them then they spend hours talking to their friends about what to text back or they just take ages, which is funny really because most of us guys will just throw our phone down when we get home, I do and I put it on silent too. But my girlfriend has hers stuck to her like glue. She texts and talks on the toilet for example. Yet I can ask her a question and she'll read it and just leave it to respond later and then just forget. Whereas if one of her girlfriends texts her, she immediately replies and will spend hours texting back and forth.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (11 February 2011):
 Ok I will indulge you!!
It's impossible to say why he hasn't replied...could be absolutely anything and the only thing you can do is send one more upbeat and positive message if you want to try to give things a go. Don't mention about the previous texts or say anything negative. If he replies then you can take things from there...if he ignores you, move on with dignity because he probably isn't worth it.
I always think it's a very good idea to have a certain set of standards that you stick to regarding how you let people treat you. If he falls below the standard with no good reason, then he isn't for you.
Chin up, plenty more fish in the sea xxx
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reader, lucy.whittaker +, writes (11 February 2011):
 Hey Love,
Men are USELESS at texting, and it's something we, as women, always need to bare in mind. He texted you first, so he's clearly into you. Next time he texts, because he will, just don't reply for a few hours. Let him see how it feels, but don't make a big deal out of it. When I first got together with my boyfriend I would start going crazy in my head 5 minutes after I sent a text even though he was at work because he'd not texted back. I'm sure it's just a natural characteristic of womankind to over-think and stress over things like this. It's just how you feel when you first start seeing someone :) You'll get a text back, be it in a few minutes, hours or a day or two. I can totally understand why you want and need to ask about the feelings, even though deep down you know worrying is totally irrational. But that's what it's all about. Enjoy it and just remind yourself that he'll send you something eventually.
Good Luck with it,
Lucy XxX
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