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writes:We all know of or heard of average, even below average guys consistently getting stunning girls. These guys don't have high status. If arrogance is a turn off, why don't these average/below average guys turn off these stunning girls?If they aren't actually arrogant, as in 'Hmmph! I can get supermodels', then what could be in these guys' minds instead that makes them so hot? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2011): I'm an okay looking girl I'd say, and a lot of my friends tend to ask me why I 'aim low' so to speak.
My answer?
I don't! I aim for a good sense of humour, ok SOME good features help such as nice eyes etc, and the ability to hold a decent conversation without holding into they're bits and spoutin the words 'kid/laa' every other word!
Simple really.
Arrogance is a turn off your not wrong, but then so is narrow mindedness and low self esteem.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2011): I'm an okay looking girl I'd say, and a lot of my friends tend to ask me why I 'aim low' so to speak.
My answer?
I don't! I aim for a good sense of humour, ok SOME good features help such as nice eyes etc, and the ability to hold a decent conversation without holding into they're bits and spoutin the words 'kid/laa' every other word!
Simple really.
Arrogance is a turn off your not wrong, but then so is narrow mindedness and low self esteem.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2011): In my opinion, you have to posses both above average looks and game, the ability to elicit a girl's attention and capture her mind with your charm and wit. Just remember this: girls love to get attention from someone who's hot and attentive, or "sweet", but who also is a bit of a challenge and mysterious. Don't always return calls or act too eager and you're in like flyn.
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reader, PerhapsNot +, writes (19 August 2011):
 I haven't seen or known many average to below average men to with hot women. And the ones that did, they had really good jobs and were very generous to their gfs.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2011): As Judge Judy says "beauty fades but dumb is forever!"
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reader, Mariab  +, writes (19 August 2011):
 Confidence my man! Mixed with some sweet talking and a sense of humor! Girls love that... Also I think that an average guy knows that he needs to work harder to get a girl so he will practice his moves!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2011): Maybe the average looking men, or below average looking men, are more of a challenge to the stunning women, or have magnetic qulities about them.
I would say i'm an average looking women, and i've liked and had people intrestied me that are super good looking. Their like 10 out of 10 for looks. Then as i've got to know them, they seem boring, with no personality.
I liked someone years back that did moderling work. I was suprised that he liked me to, since he was so nice looking and i'm more down to earth looking. He was so boring though, he had the persinality of a plank of wood.
Back at school, i had a friend that was fat with ginger hair. He liked me but i wasn't intrestied in him in the slightest. However, i did end up falling in love with him in the end. He broke my heart! he had reall personality unlike the other man.
Maybe, average men just have more about them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2011): I heard that some girls go out with ugly guys to accentuate their beauty.. dunno how often this occurs.
my ex was fugly-as. the only reason I went out with him was due to his dorkiness and him asking me out 3 times. I felt so sorry for him, believing that he had never had a gf, being so dorky and all. turns out he had had 20 ex-gfs (yeah, 20) and slept with about 10 of them. I think he played the pity card with all of us, because he definitely was no spunk and also quite short.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2011): You show me an average or below average looking guy with a really stunning girlfriend and I'll show you his very large bank account.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2011): I imagine that what these "average" guys are doing is talking to the women that they meet as if they are talking to a human being, and NOT as if they are talking to a woman.
Most women, and pretty women in particular are inundated with formulaic approaches from guys who think that they themselves are really something, "high status", as you put it, whatever that is.
Then when these women meet a guy who just wants to have a normal conversation with them, they open up and respond. Looks don't matter a damn.
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reader, serenity80 +, writes (19 August 2011):
I think you are massively over-generalising. Who is to say these guys are "below average" and the girls are "stunning"? You? I think you are being way too judgemental, and assuming less of men, and associating good looks with women being "high status". Why is that? Men and women aren't *that* different. Concentrate on your own life and what you want from it, try stay away from stereotypes and assumptions that people must be a certain why just because of how you judge them to look.
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reader, DanceInTheDark  +, writes (19 August 2011):
 Going to bet they have the ability to hold a conversation with them, and treat them like a person, instead of being like "OMG U SO HOT."
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reader, aintnoangel +, writes (19 August 2011):
 one word, personality!
most girls are just as bad as guys when it comes to being shallow... they will put up with a completely hot guy being an arrogant ass just because he's good looking. these girls will come to realize they're delusional.
if you're not so fortunate as to wake up looking like a greek god, then you fall into the category of average; though you may have to work harder, you're better off in the long run. girls might be initially attracted to looks, but they'll stick around for someone with a great personality who treats them right.
average/below average guys might not have looks going for them, but if they can find ways to be around these girls (as their friend, parties, etc) then they have the opportunity for their personality to shine through and take over. if one of these girls becomes interested, then things just kind of go from there.
eventually you'll find someone right for you ... and heck, she might be only average looking too. beauty is only skin deep.
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