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writes:Hi. I'm 22, i broke up with my first boyfriend almost five months ago. We both study medicine and work together in a hospital.My ex and i were extremely different; we had nothing in common. Still, for some reason, we managed to stay together six months.At the beginning it was great, or at least i felt that way. He was a difficult person to talk to, he always seemed to be distracted. We saw each other 2times a week at the most. I always knew he was on drugs, he smoked weed, ate peyote, did LSD once in a while...all his friends did the same, some of them did more dangerous drugs, too much partying...you get the picture. I disliked it all and had nothing to do with that environment. I was obviosuly never able to fit in his group. He wanted me to have sex with him, but for the reasons i mentioned above, i didn't let it happen. Still, i loved him (stupid, right?)When the realationship was heading towards the end, i noticed i barely saw him, he didn't return my text messages or my calls. One day, he simply began saying that he really cared for me and everything but it all had to end. He didn't even try to give me an explanation...and i didn't ask for it, 'cause i know there were huge differences and i didn't want to have sex.I assume that must have played a major role in the break up. Still i was (and stupidly enough, still am) angry at him because he didn't even try to explain...so i felt he didn't care for me at all. He was very surprised and upset by my reaction. Still he wouldn't explain.I told him i wanted to stay away from him for a long time.Five months have gone by. During that time he has tried to speak to me very few times when he run into each other, but the conversations are awkward, short, with meaningless questions. At first he just asked if i was still angry. What really puzzles me is...he keesp staring fixedly at me whenever he sees me, even when i look away. He doesn't even try to hide it. His stares are even more intense when i'm with another guy. He follows me with his gaze, he turns to my direction to keep me in his sight. But that's all he does, no phone calls, no messages. He tries to have a conversation with me when he gest the chance, but he just talks about stupid trivial stuff. I have to admit i'm not very friendly with him either. It still kinda hurts...but i know it all was for the best. However, i'd like to know why he does that. WHy does he keep on staring at me like that even after such a long time? what could he be thinking of? what do you think guys? thanx!!
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reader, Icehime86 +, writes (9 August 2008):
Icehime86 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanx a lot guys. You're totally right. I know i'm on the right track now. :)
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reader, Chumley2222 +, writes (25 June 2008):
 Icehime, I wish I could say something profound here..but unfortunately I'm not a mind reader, and neither are you. Who knows what this guy is thinking? He might be thinking that he shouldn't have let you go, or that he'd like to give it another try but knows you're already over him, or something else entirely. I think the real question you should be asking is, who cares? He broke up with you, but you could have easily broken up with him anyway. He obviously wasn't your type and it is a GOOD thing that you two are no longer together.
Live your life, and find someone who you ARE attracted to, and who DOES share the same values in life that you do (i.e., no drugs). It can only go up from here and you're on the right track. Don't let your curiosity override the good head on your shoulders. Let bygones be bygones and let someone else worry about him..you know what they say about the cat and curiosity!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2008): I'm a girl....but I think he regrets his past immature decisions. You stuck to your convictions, and stood on the moral high ground, and I think this fella finally realizes how stupid his actions were. My Dear Lady, stick to your guns, and let him stare, and regret his immaturity....perhaps it will help him grow up at bit. All my prayers are with you, God Bless!
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