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writes:Well it all started when my girlfriend told me she went to the mall with a male friend who I had heard of before, but I never knew they went on what I consider a date. So we get pass that, then I notice that whenever she goes out it was almost impossible to get in contact with her. She begins to check in and picks up when I call. Then after that she begins going out every week end with her girl friends. She would always come to my house but it would be like 2 3 in the mourning. I would be sitting home while my girlfriend is out drinking with her single friends which I didnt like very much at all. I broke up with her because my consious was never clear and I was begining to think that she was cheating on me. But the same day her grandfather died. I felt bad and a few days later we talked and were going to work things out. When I noticed that there was writing on her car and one of the names was her mall friend. Later she told me that she was drunk and that her, her cousin and this guy were all together and her cousin wrote their names on the car. My thing is who writes names on a car at nite how can you see? I went through her phone and saw that another male friend had text her saying hey baby this and that, and that he was on his way home. And in her call log, there were calls going back and forth between her and the mall guy. When I confronted her she told me to call both of them. And later she said that she apologized for the text that it was irregular and that it was out of line. Also that the calls were to and from her moms friend with the same name. I dont know if I should work it out or just leave her alone. She has stuck with me through th hardest time of my life.. three months after we met I found out I was having a baby by my X and my son is 1 and we have ben together for almost 2yrs
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reader, gmoney +, writes (28 June 2008):
gmoney is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks alot even though it has ben hard, I broke up with her. There are too many women in the world to be sick over one. I had readched the point where I having thoughts of going through her stuff and to me thats not good. Its not worth it If I have to do all that to keep a clear conscious. In our lovey dovey phase I didnt feel like that so I had to end it. Life is really a test. I will never let a woman get into my heart again, a broken heart is a pain like no other.
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reader, Chumley2222 +, writes (25 June 2008):
 I have some experience in this sort of thing. If you feel your partner is cheating on you, most (and I stress most) of the time you're right. The subconscious picks up on signals and sooner or later, you notice them consciously. No one calls someone else 'baby' unless they've had some sort of intimate contact. Not necessarily sexual, but definitely contact, hugging, hand holding, something. Nothing about that is 'irregular', it's just wrong. You confronted her, and she backed off with an excuse that just doesn't seem right.
If I had the evidence you had, I'd be out the door in a heartbeat. Every person has some good in them (her sticking by you while you dealt with eventual fatherhood) but obviously something is missing on her end and whether she's told you or not, she's ready to bail. My advice is to let her know that you KNOW she's cheating, and that you'd like to either find out why and attempt to mend your broken trust, or just end it so that both of you can move on.
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reader, femcuck  +, writes (25 June 2008):
 you cant rule out the fact that these calls might have been instigated by the male party and she cant really be rude
when your texting there is going to be back and forth.
install keylogger on to her computer.
it took me less than 1 day to find out that my wife is seeing other guys.
my advice to you is!
you have two ears and one mouth ,use them in those proportions.
good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2008): Stick with her.
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