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writes: I have loved this girl since the moment I met her. The first time we met there was a spark bigger than an atom bomb. The day after that she wrote me a message with "I miss you 3", but I wanted to see if this was really the girl for me, so we met two more time's after that. She even stayed over at my place, but since I had my heart broken once too many times I was afraid of saying "I love you".I sent her a text a couple of days later that said I missed her and wanted to see here again. She responded by saying that she is sick now and will let me know if she is better to meet again. Now 2 weeks later, I haven't heard a thing from her and she's hasn't been online since (she was most of the time before that). This is the only way of communicating with her since it's an hour drive to her house. I got worried and I texted "hey it's a while since I last heard from you. how r you doing?" and she didn't respond. I want to meet her again to tell her I love her because I don't want to say that over the internet or a text. Now I dont know if I should clamp on to trying to meet her, or if I should just send her a text saying so.The absolute mind blowing part is that since a couple of days her nickname has changed to "the way you act...you love me?", but I never see her online. and I don't know if this is directed toward me or maybe some other guy. If there's a person out there who can look at this a bit more clearheaded than me, and can tell me if I did something wrong or not, or if maybe I was too slow and lost her, or just got some signals wrong. Please tell me what to do! I just don’t know anymore and I do not want to lose this girl!
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reader, jay3532  +, writes (11 February 2011):
dude let her contact you. Balls in her court. Simple as that, wait a while, dont give in to soon.. when you do talk again, clarify the issues and have a good talk about whats going on. Give it time my freind. For now go out and enjoy urself. goodluck
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reader, jay3532 +, writes (11 February 2011):
dude let her contact you. Balls in her court. Simple as that, wait a while, dont give in to soon.. when you do talk again, clarify the issues and have a good talk about whats going on. Give it time my freind. For now go out and enjoy urself. goodluck
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (10 February 2011):
 You have actually been out with her, what, twice since you met initially? And you tell us you're AFRAID to tell her you love her?
Sorry, but you jolly well SHOULD be afraid to tell her that! Perhaps "afraid" isn't quite the right word: I mean, you should be very wary - it's MUCH, much too soon! Look: if you'd been going out say, twice a week for six, eight months, better still, a year, THEN you could say "I love you".
As things now stand, it takes a good deal of time and experiences (both good and bad) together to discover whether you two really are a good match.
Quite possibly she thinks you come across as a bit too intense and that may be why she isn't responding to your messages.
Leave her alone for a while and see if she gets in touch. I know you don't intend to pressure her, but I sure as heck would feel you were coming on too strong were I in her shoes. If you do hear from her, and she wants to go on a date with you, take it slow, nice and easy does it.
If you don't, well, you'll really have no choice but to write "the end" to this acquaintance, and take a lesson from it for the future......
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