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writes:So my Ex girlfriend I dated over a year ago just broke up with her boyfriend a cple weeks ago, and lately shes been askin me to hang out quite a bit, but the last few times have been different than just a couple of friends hangin out. The other night she asked me to hang out with her and her friend so I did and at the end of the night we said goodbye and I went home and got on facebook and she started IM'ing me and I was teasing her that she gave me a lame goodbye and she jokingly said I could drive up to her house and get a hug if I wanted, so not jokingly I said I would and did so. She was really suprised that I did because it was two in the morning. So she ended up givin me a big hug and we just sat outside and talked about random stuff for a couple hours, so eventually we got tired and siad goodbye, got another hug. went home and she txtd me a smiley face just randomly. So then the next night she asked me to hang out with her and her friend again so we walked around downtown for a bit and then went to her friends house to watch a movie, about halfway through the movie we were just wrestling around and tickling, teasing each other and ended up cuddling on the bed watching the movie. I didnt expect this to happen and def did not plan on it. I just dont know how to go about interpreting this situation just because I cant beleive she would ever have feelings for me again after the first time we dated a year ago...this girl is the only girl that I have ever felt so strongly for and have always wished for another chance and truely beleive I deserve another chance because weve both matured and changed in good ways in the past year weve been apart... I would just like some insight on to what others think is going on???
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reader, Abella +, writes (31 July 2011):
 Hi,She is in the right place now. To reconnect with you. IF she is treating you as a short term temporary Rebound then I would be very concerned. But I don't think that is the case. I DO think she is interested in you and wants to re-connect.If you are interested, (and I think you are), then I suggest you go for it now! Do it while her interest is so high.Is there a restaurant (affordable) nearby that serves really good food but also has a romantic feel? If yes make a booking then ask her to join you. Pull out all the stops. Pick her up. Compliment her. Put on a classical instrumental piece of music softly playing in the car on the way to the venue. Take your time. Flirt gently with her. Listen to her. Ask her an occasional open question.Part of the way through the meal catch her eye and tell her you've never felt the same about any girl, the way you feel about her. Make sure you have a follow up to explain yourself, if she asks, 'and how do you feel about me/us?'If the evening is going well then make a mental note to later remind her of this evening with the following suggestion. To let her know she is special. So if she already has a Pandora bracelet then (a few days later) present her with a heart link for her bracelet. (don't get her a starter bracelet - that is too much). But just a heart link - with a Card mentioning the date of the dinner and that the heart link is to help her remember the date.During the evening meal, if you are getting all the right vibes, ask her, 'How can I become most special the man in you life? What do I need to do to convince you that that is what I want for us?'If this IS the direction she wants then your words should melt any last doubts she may still have lingering in the back of her mind.If there are any issues that caused your previous break then go over in your mind the remedies to ensure each problem issue has been resolved. Follow up this dinner date with a more casual outings. Maybe a stroll along somewhere nice. Get an icecream. Keep flirting.Don't keep her waiting too long if you want this relationship permanent. You lost each other once. This time make every post a winning post.Good Luck.Your chances with her sound very good!
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