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writes:Ok for you guys out there...I am dating a guy who is a 27 year old virgin. I am 24 and im not a vigin. I know that he has been waiting for this to share with someone special and wants it to be special. he says that hes ready but im scared to death! i want to make sure its perfect for him and make it memorable and something that he wont regret. i have googled and searched and searched...so heres my question!What is a guys fantasy of losing his virginity when he has waited this long?! what should i wear? how should i initiate it? candles? lingerie???? on the floor? bed? lol what the hell should i do?!? hes nervous (so am i!) i want to make sure hes relaxed and that its perfect for him. Reply to this Question
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reader, Evans  +, writes (29 January 2010):
My dear. Did you talk to him about how you lost yours back then? If you haven't, BETTER do so now. I would not keep mine for someone special who was irresponsible. Please don't break his heart. If he has not asked, maybe he doesn't care but watch out and save him from a potential time bomb that will tear him apart.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2010): Ha the female poster said it best. She's not a man and doesn't know what goes on inside a man's head. I have no idea what goes on inside a woman's head. I wanted to lose my virginity to someone really special but I didn't want to wait for an indefinited time period when that special someone might be having fun. It sounds like he needs to talk to an older guy about this but all I can tell you is that you should be prepared in case the expierience isn't so great for him. It probably won't be.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2010): I think you are going about this the right way, but you need to be careful not to build up his or your expectations. How many times have you heard that sex is bad the first time? I know some people are probably born to have sex, but most of us have to learn how. You should also make sure that he knows what to do and perhaps suggest he research it to help himself out. Just because he is 27, does not mean he knows everything he needs to know about sex, performance, and the like. He is after all a virgin. As far as fantasies go, I agree with Satindesire; you should ask him. People are different therefor their fantasies tend to be as well. Universal fantasies seem to include reddi whip undies, handcuffs, and hide the banana. Although, I must admit I have not tried any of those. In all honesty I think you should just go with candles, lingerie, on the bed, lights off, and maybe some music. That would create a very memorable, relaxing atmosphere. Just take it slow, and let him try out all the different positions. That is how I wish I would have done it. My first time was a two-minute, fully clothed, panic attack. Start off simple, then add new things as you go along.
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reader, Nevz  +, writes (22 January 2010):
Just tell him not to worry. Go on top and give him the night of his life. Do all the work to make him feel comfortable. Just please him :)
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