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writes:my boyfriend nd i have had sex but about 8 weeks ago he broke up with me because it wasnt working to well since we go to diffrant schools we werent seeing each other much and of course im mad but the real bad part is im pregnant he has a new girlfriend he likes and as for the pregnancy part he says its my decision on what to do which im still deciding but the main thing is he still loves me but he just doesnt like me so much cause of the distance and the stress were bth under i want to have the baby but only if were together can anyone help me try to earn him back i mean whats a good way to get someone you love come back?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthis is not what im asking im keeping my baby and my ex isnt that big of a jerk he said he'll support me and hes gonna go through it with me but in my case i do think its wrong to kill somthing that is alive we still love each other but just at some point things got to hectic for our alone time thanks but the condom did break! so i wasnt that stupid and we were being very mature we waited 9 months. and we did agree about goin with the consequences we were each others firsts its not that im a minor im just simply asking advice really on how to fix things.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2007): Dont bother, if he can get you pregnant and then be irresponcible enough not to feel its his duty to stick around then you dont need him.
This is exactly why minors shouldnt be having sex - you are too immature to deal with the consequences. I dont mean that personnally, i mean generally, thats why a law is in place. You need to decide whether you want to throw your life away for a baby that 'you dont want without your boyfriend' and dont bank on him playing a part in its life if you do have it. I would have to say if the choice was mine. Id choose education and growing up a bit before pregnancy and responsibility.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2007): Get an abortion. I CANNOT stress this enough.
If you think you are mature and wise as you'll ever be, then maybe have the baby.
If however, you want to live a life before you have to spend the rest of yours looking after another child, and you think that your kid might appreciate you getting a job and an education and a proper dad then you might want to consider having a kid at a later point in your life. You WILL regret having a kid at this age.
As for whether its wrong to abort, is it wrong to have a tumor removed? Is it wrong to have genital warts removed?
If aborting a ball of cells is murder, then i must be a mass murderer with the amount of jacking off i do. Fetuses are just potential life, they're not conscious, they can't feel pain, they're just a sperm and an egg that are growing.
And for gods sake, next time you have sex, use a condom, its not difficult, it stops you getting lots of tasty diseases that could ruin your life or sex life, and pregnancy is a bitch.
Also, you can't "earn" someone back. It sounds like you don't have that much in common with this guy, and he doesn't particularly have a great interest in you. Get an abortion, live life, find a relationship with someone who understands you and cares for you, and who you have the same back for.
I hope this doesn't fuck up your life too badly.
Much regards
-stranger
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reader, Asexy +, writes (2 November 2007):
 Sweetheart, you won't be able to get him back. He's already told you that, I'm so very sorry. You need to decide what to do about the baby knowing that he won't be there for you.
You don't want someone who doesn't want you anyway. You deserve someone who wants you as much as you want them. He's not the guy for you.
If you decide to have/keep the baby, you have to tell your mom, because she needs to tell HIS mom so that they are responsible for it too. You'll need so much help, and basically your childhood is over.
If you decide to have/adopt out the baby, you'll still need to tell your mom, but whether you involve him or his family is up to you and your mom.
If you decide not to have the baby, you don't need to tell anyone, but he should help you pay for it. (Tell your mom if you can; it's what she's there for.)
Good luck honey.
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