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writes:Men, there is such a thing as a code of honor among friends when two or more like the same woman, right?The past two months have been strange and I'm confused. Three male friends of years and all the sudden they are all showing strong signs of interest in me, one even asking me out. The man I'm interested in gave me a firm, full body hug of several seconds the last time the whole gang was together, right in the middle of the room for everyone to see, but that seemed to bring the other two out or is it possible that they are being very nice (and assertive with their body language) because of their friend? No, wait, one actually asked me out. What could be happening here? Could this be a competition? How does the guy code work? I stepped very carefully over the date request. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2016): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone. Sounds like I need to make my choice clear.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (27 April 2016):
 Honeypie knows lots about guys and our codes.... Yes, the hug was to claim territory (you!)... and the others are encroaching in to what could become a messy situation.
YOU are really in control of this whole thing.... and it is incumbent upon YOU to take that control, and - if you DO want to be exclusive with one of these three - make that known, and expect that you will HAVE TO cool the friendship with the other two....
Good luck....
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reader, Garbo +, writes (27 April 2016):
 I never heard of any guy codes. If 3 of them want you, the 2 who sense that you like the other one will disappear. So make a firmchoice and stick with it.
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reader, Ivyblue  +, writes (27 April 2016):
 Not sure about codes - but I think thats for them to work out. you go out with whom ever it is you want. As for them, you snooze you loose.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2016): Yeah happens all the time. You can end it by going on a date with the guy you like and turn the others down.
Or you could mess with them all by dating all of them. Seen that happen too but it usually doesn't end well. Good friends will usually step aside for whom ever you choose amongst them. But then theirs always the hell raiser in the group, to which I say a hard head makes for a soft ass.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2016): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi Honeypie! Thanks for making me laugh. And thank you for understanding I feel all the sudden uncomfortable.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (27 April 2016):
 Who do you WANT to date? Any of them? All of them? Let's say they are A, B and C - C asked you out, but you are interested in B, whom YOU are also interested in - I'd focus on B. But.. I would also consider the dynamics, what do you stand to lose if it doesn't work out?
Honestly, the full body hug almost seemed like a territorial thing, the fact that he CHOSE to do it in full view of the other two guys says it all... Guess it's a good thing it was a hug, not him "peeing" on "his" territory.
I don't know how competitive these guys are in general, but I would feel rather uncomfortable if all 3 are now showing interest all of a sudden.
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