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writes:I'm 15, a lesbian, and one of my best friends in this entire world just turned 19, and is also a lesbian. We are very, very great friends, and are pretty affectionate with one another, as in we cuddle on the couch, kiss each other on the cheek, etc., but it doesn't go beyond that. She is one of the closest friends I've ever had, and there is nothing that either one of us wouldn't do for the other.Anyway, I've been thinking that I have feelings for her for a few months now. I know that I love her as a friend, but I'm not too sure if I love her as more than that. I think I really do, but what if it's just a puppy crush, or maybe unresolved sexual tension? I haven't told her anything about it, but I wouldn't want to risk making an awkward situation or harming our friendship. I know that I love and adore her as a close friend, and I care for her with every fiber of my being.I don't know if she feels the same, or has figured out how I feel but hasn't told me. Again, we're very sweet to each other in all the same ways. So, maybe the feeling is mutual but she doesn't want to tell me for all the same reasons? I'm not too sure.If I knew she felt the same, I would definitely wait for the exact right time, and then tell her. However, if I knew that she didn't, I would disregard these feelings, because I'd still be perfectly happy with us staying the way we currently are. She means the world to my either way.(There's also our ages, I know, but we've been friends for a while, and it feels like I've known her my entire life. I know that our parents would be okay with it if we dated, because my mom, whom actually doesn't know I like her, has openly said so, and her parents are flexible.)Please help, thank you!
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reader, AuntyAlexxmo  +, writes (23 April 2012):
 If you really want to tell her how you feel and dont think it would affect your friendship or make things awakrd then i think waiting and seeing how you feel when you are a bit older is a good idea!
Its not because your too young to know how you feel or be in a relationship, its just the age difference that could be a big issue, more for her.
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reader, Glittering_Goddess +, writes (23 April 2012):
Glittering_Goddess is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOkay, thank you.
I think that a wise idea would be, if she tells me that the feelings are mutual, to decide and stay the way we are now, with our amazing bond of friendship, and then wait until I'm 18. If we still have feelings for each other when I'm of-age, then we'll see where Cupid takes us. What do you think?
Thank you for your insight!
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reader, AuntyAlexxmo +, writes (22 April 2012):
I don't mean to sound rude, but not many 19 year olds would want to date someone who is only 15, it may only be 4 years but it is a huge gap.
I don't know that laws in your particular state, but i assume she is over the age of sexual consent and you are not, meaning it would be illegal for her to be with you in that way, she could get into a lot of trouble.
All that aside, if your friendship worth risking when you sound like you are so close? Even if she does like you back, you are so young the chancer are you will eventually break up and then you will lose her as a friend, or not have the same relationship you once had.
Im not telling you not to tell her because well you are 15 and in the end you will do whatever you want, but just to think about what the two of you have now and what that means to you before you do anything else.
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