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writes: Hi, I am 20 and I have never had a boyfriend as such and I am a virgin.I really like this guy in college and I know for a fact he likes me! But I am scared to get with him in case all he wants is sex and I don't know what to do!?How can I overcome this fear? Should I just see what happens and should I tell him if it gets to that stage?help me
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reader, fairyangel  +, writes (5 February 2006):
 Well if all he wants from you is sex, then dump him, because then he is not worth the effort!
On the other hand, maybe he wants you for you...
You will only find out in time, so go & find out..
It's no use sitting around avoiding relationships just because you allow fear to hold you back.
Good Luck!
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reader, AuntyYasmin +, writes (5 February 2006):
If all he wants is sex, then he doesn't deserve you. He has no respect for you then and he isn't worth your time.
However, if he isn't pressurising you, then wait, enjoy your time with him and see how you feel about him.
Don't rush into sex, plenty of my friends have only lost their virginity from ages 17-20ish.
Its different for everybody! You will feel so much better about yourself if you slept with somebody who you could trust and respect and who would respect and appreciate you. Don't rush into anything, and only do it when you are ready with somebody you feel comfortable with. It will be so much easier and less scary.
I waited for 6ish months with my first and i was so ready, and he knew i was a virgin, and respected me etc. You want your first time to be special and a good memory. A memory where the guy doesn't dump you the next day!
You tell him your not ready if thats the case, and if he respects your decision and is ok with that, then he sounds like a great guy! He may just be as nervous as you! Just respect yourself and let him respect you!
And remember, use a condom to help protect you against pregnancy, as well as ugly sti's! some are symptomless and can cause infertility!!
Good luck!
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