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writes:What if I can't get through this? This has been the most difficult break up I've ever been through. We were together for nearly 5 years and found out he was cheating on me. I ended it. He moved in with his mistress after I busted him and confronted her. Its been just over a year since we broke up. And I still hurt. I haven't dated anyone since, not that I haven't been asked out, but I am in so much pain. And I may have to come to the conclusion that I may not make it through this. I may never get over him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2010): Get some counseling or therapy. What have you got to lose? You may benefit from some doctor-prescribed medication. Whatever helps, use it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2010): Took me 2 years to get over something like this.
Eventually you do.
Counseling can help you understand that it isn't "you" who was the problem and help you with future relationships.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone. I am trying to move on. I don't want to be with someone I can't trust. But having said that doesn't make this any easier. I feel like I have been on a roller coaster to hell and back.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2010): I want to say that you will get over him but I can not say that..what can I say is you will get over the pain! you been with him 5years so just cause its been just over a year without him and u still feel pain that doesn't mean you always will feel like this. sometimes it takes some people longer than others to get over things..at one time i thought i wouldnt get over a guy i been with for 6years and he cheated and had a baby with someone else.it crushed me and day in and out i kept telling myself this will never end..never dating, never thinking about nothing but him! and all that happened..it took me bout 2years 2really not hurt at all over just the thought of what happened but i finally got tired of not being happy again especially known he not feeling love lost over me..sometimes it helps to face it head on let ur emotions do what its gon do and tell urself tho at the same time that u want to let go and be happy,,think positive, do positive things. definately get out!! try to be around new people and try to connect with someone..what he did to you was cruel and hurts worse than any physical pain to me..some people don't feel that deeply but for the ones that do it just takes a little push to get us going..you a be ok and this is making you stronger even you do not see it right now..and one day it wont hurt as much, then one day it wont hurt at all!! I dont think ive fully got over 1particular person in my life that meant the world to me.. but i can tell you when i think of him it doesnt hurt anymore..I hope you feel better soon..
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reader, PatientlyWaiting1 +, writes (27 November 2010):
Hello. I am sorry to hear about this. I am unclear, are you trying to move on, are you hurting because he does not want you back, are you trying to get him back, or simply trying to move on? Can you elaborate please :) Thank You. Then I will try to help you.
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