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writes: I'm doing research for a novel. In this novel, a girl fixes up her older sister with a decent boy. Problem is, as I read the web page about "spotting abusive men," I noted that some of the signs were exhibited by the male character in the book, who is, in fact, decent. I get the point that abusive men are good actors and manipulators. But what if a person really is a good guy, and tries to show kindness to a girl? It seems to me that, one purpose of a bad guy's play-acting is to ruin it for other guys. How do you deal with this? What's a guy to do, if he really is nice, but girls assume he's faking it? Reply to this Question
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reader, Thundermist04167 +, writes (3 January 2008):
Thundermist04167 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Oh, that's what you meant. I was thinking along different lines. But, yes, her sister would be practical-minded about boys.
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reader, Thundermist04167 +, writes (3 January 2008):
Thundermist04167 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Actually, her younger sister is blind, so she is definitely not "pragmatic."
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reader, Thundermist04167 +, writes (2 January 2008):
Thundermist04167 is verified as being by the original poster of the question I checked the link. In my story, the good guy does not fit anything on the list.
1) He loves children, and wants them someday. (In fact, the book will end with him as a husband and father.)
2) He is a "cat person."
3) He refuses pre-marital sex.
4) He is not "jealous," because he is confident that the girl will eventually come to pick the right guy; if not him, then he accepts it.
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reader, Thundermist04167 +, writes (2 January 2008):
Thundermist04167 is verified as being by the original poster of the question I checked the link. In my story, the good guy does not fit anything on the list.
1) He loves children, and wants them someday. (In fact, the book will end with him as a husband and father.)
2) He is a "cat person."
3) He refuses pre-marital sex.
4) He is not "jealous," because he is confident that the girl will eventually come to pick the right guy; if not him, then he accepts it.
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reader, Thundermist04167 +, writes (2 January 2008):
Thundermist04167 is verified as being by the original poster of the question The point is this.
According to that book about "spotting bad guys," a manipulator will pretend to be "nice." But, once he gets the girl, he becomes abusive.
My question was, What if a guy really is nice, and intends to stay that way?
And what if a girl, having been beaten to smithereens by bad guys, can't bring herself to trust anyone?
What's a decent guy to do, if bad guys ruin it for everyone? How can he have any chance to prove himself worthy of trust?
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