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writes: Whenever my boyfriend and I don't see eachother, which is most of the week, my feelings for him fade. They go from 100 (on the day we see each other) to like 30. I start doubting him, start wondering why he doesn't even bother visiting me when he can (and why he's with his friend instead!?) Is this normal? I start feeling very independent and almost cold and bitter towards him. And with this state of mind, I begin wanting to break up with him so badly, it overwhelms me sometimes. Anything he says sets me off. This is all due to the fact that he hasn't been treating me very well for the past 2 years (of our 3 year relationship). I just feel like I have a lot more value than to be ignored, insulted, to be cheap with, to be lazy with, etc. He doesn't do anything drastically horrible but I have just come to the conclusion (or my brain has, actually) that what I have is OK but that I could have a lot better. And with THAT state of mind, my heart feels guilty and horrible. I can never hurt him by leaving him... However when I see him, most of these bad feelings go away and I guess are shoved under the rug of my subconscious.... Help me please :/
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reader, lmao1989  +, writes (16 September 2012):
 I think if they are subconcious then they are the actual feelings you have because they normal emerge when you least expect it because it is your true feelings.
Perhaps chat with him explain how you are feeling and that if it carries on then you will end the relationship because you feel you deserve a lot more than what you are getting from him.
If he can't understand that then he isn't worth it.
If you feel you deserve better then he needs to know that the way he is now isn't what you feel you deserve.
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