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writes: I'd love to give my boyfriend great foreplay, to get him excited for whats coming next. But I want him to enjoy the foreplay a lot too, and not just the sex. I feel he might only be doing it, with the intentions of getting it over quickly, so we can start having sex.What can I do to make great foreplay? What brings guys the most pleasure in foreplay?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2008): Good question.
I am also keen on pleasing my boyfriend in the warm up to sex (as well as during) but all advice seems to be geared up to mens tips for women and not the other way round. It would be nice to have some pointers that don't rely on the same old, tired techniques. What do men really enjoy? Come on guys- speak up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2008): Respond to HIS foreplay. Nothing turns me on more than watching, hearing, and feeling my partner squirm and quiver in orgasm. After she has a couple preliminary ones on my tongue or fingers she gets The Big One with me inside - and I do too!
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reader, SamuraiRick  +, writes (10 January 2008):
 I can't speak for other guys, and I may be in the minority, but good foreplay for me involves the pleasure I give my partner and not worrying about my pleasure. So for me as long as I am giving her pleasure my pleasure and desire is heightened in response. Women have more orgasms than men, so it does work out better when the female is getting her engine started first.
But that’s me. And only a mature guy like me knows this and guys your age are more into the jump in get in on quick and get out. They have to learn that foreplay is a big part of sex, and guys only learn this from experience with girls like you. It's like teaching him to fly after he's already jumped off the cliff.
What you have to do is hold out on him and not permit him to have intercourse so quickly. Wait about an hour or so and tease him during this time. Use your hands, your tongue, food and feathers to tease him. Give him a full body massage and deliberately leave his penis for last; when you do tend to his penis start out slow and only use your hands. If you do oral, you have to know that oral IS sex and not just part of foreplay....so even with oral you should take your time and ease into it. SO it’s all really about pacing yourself and living each small moment of pleasure on its own terms. You are building up to intercourse and that's where most guys get their best pleasure.
One good suggestion I can make is to dance for him, eventually lap dancing and taking off your clothes as you go. Peel off his clothes too as you dance on his lap. Give him a good tease and then move it into the bed. We guys are visual creatures and the mere sight of women dancing in front and on us gets our engines running (this is why strip bars are so popular).
Put a timer by your bed next time you get together with him and lay down the ground rules...no intercourse for an hour. Do everything else but that and you will build your desire up so much that the intercourse will be that much better.
I hope this gives you a little help. You can get ask other women on what particulars work for them in foreplay.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2008): Just give him great oral sex!
Lick his balls, and suck them softly, you may also kiss them. You can also lick his anus or finger them after some blowjob....some guys love such foreplay!!
Believe me, he might even cum so fast!!
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (10 January 2008):
 You can masturbate him slowly and give him some boobs massages or some great lickings.
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