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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Ok this is gonna be confusing but i hope you can help.Some background info may help so here goes...Basically there was a lad 1 yr n half ago in my class that seemed to like me, various things happened that were weird and would point to the fact he liked me. Staring(and lots of it), people suggesting to me how nice he was, people acting weird - i can;t really describe that but like as if they knew we liked each other,teasing,people suggesting to me that he liked me etc..the list goes on. I even thought that i heard him admit it to some others in the class i was like 90% certain, after this day people seemd to etase him abit and then this girl who had always like him started sayin nasty stuff about me and basically turning people against me...obviously this affected what this lad did but he still continued to show it.Anyway on afew attemtped of finding out he denyed it to friends of our that he likes me even though they said he does because of how he act. he also liked this other girl in the class who lead him on and then turned him down, he was upset but i ended up getting involved because someone said it was cause of hurting me she wouldn;t do it! It wasnt just that and i tried to persuade her to be with him. After this she turned him down and the first thing he said to me when i saw him later in the day is "we're still friends though arent we? me n u?"Now some time on....We've literally jsut left college and i know for a fact he wants this other girl and is going to try and get her, however she is still with her bf but hes currently in another country and is waiting for her to go over..although she says she dont wanna go. Thing is this is the main bit im asking about.His mate suddenly added me and started talking to me and wants me to mean up with them two. She seems nice we get on etc but shes actually said to someone that shes trying to get us together and wants to make us happy but isn;t sure if she should get involved in helping us.Now the weird thing is she doesn;t know i like him, she asked me if i liked anyone n i was abit suspicous of it from the start and said no not atm. Only he could of told her and surely then he would of said that he didn't like me back and everything so why would she be trying to get us together if he hadn't said anything to ehr or told her he wanted to be with me. Can i just add that hes never really stopped showing that he liked me until afew months ago when he was after this girl again..and he still is. But he must of told her. they're good mates so whats going on here. One minute its like he wants that other girl but now im not sure what to think. Its really weird that all this has happened after we left college. Please just give me your opinion on whats going on. I know you would say don't waste your time with him but i just want to try and put my mind at rest. I will play along with this and see what happens but i just need someone elses point of view. Reply to this Question
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reader, cnbn123 +, writes (10 June 2009):
i think honestly, he's just hedging his bets. He obvs. likes the both of you, but just doesnn't want to pass up an opportunity if it goes wrong with the other girl. i think he's cared of rejection and doesn't want to go making a move on you if he thinks you're not going to respond in a positive way. If you want this guy you need to show your feelings to him before he gets bored waiting around for you, and definitely goes for the other girl, as it sounds like her relationship is on the brink of falling apart. That;s my opinion anyway, i do hope i've been some help, do message me with any queries, good luck hun xx
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