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writes:I have a wierd question:What exactly is a relationship?i have never had a relationship, but i see all these happy couples around town holding hands, kissing, buying things for each other, doing nice gestures for each other, and obviously saying those 3 words "i love you".I also have friends in relationships, and my parents of course, so i see what goes on "behind the scenes" so to speak, such as in my parents case, sharing household bills and chores etc. but my friends, as they are not married yet it seems their relationship is not as "advanced" so to speak as maybe my parents or their parents.do i have the right idea there?could someone please explain as thoroughly as possible the ins and outs, the dos and donts the yeses and nos of a relationship .. basically what a relationship is!
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reader, largentsgirl89  +, writes (8 December 2010):
 I don't think there is an exact definition of an intimate relationship.
There is an intimate relationship that is shared between two people that truly and unconditionally love each other. We, as humans, all have a need to feel loved and have a sense of belonging in the world and we find this in intimate relationships. When you are young and are dating, I think its more exploration and affectionate adoration than love. Although in some rare cases some young couples can and do end up married and live happily ever after.
As I have gotten older I have learned that a real relationship is about trust, honesty, love, compassion, understanding, support and friendship. I don't beleive that you can have love without trust. My fiance taught me everything that I know about love and a real relationship. He showed me that it's okay to let him know how I feel about anything and he will never judge me or think less of me. He taught me that it's alright to fight with each other, as long as it's constructive fighting and we aren't putting each other down.
He has been there for me when other people would have left a long time ago and he still stayed because he loves me.
A relationship isn't just the hugging, kissing and holding hands. Its the parts that you don't see. The fighting that brings you closer. The tiny moments where you fall in love with that person all over again and it's living life with each other and knowing that person's flaws and loving them all the more for it.
I don't think there are any rules to relationships. There are the obvious ones like don't cheat and don't lie. BE loyal to your significant other.
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reader, FreshPrince  +, writes (8 December 2010):
simply put. Have you ever liked someone to the extent where you want to spend time with them continuously, and when theyre not there, you miss them? when this feeling is mutual and has been expressed by both parties, a decision can be made to get together and express sexual loyalty. As is the pain of existence, financial trouble will get you, whether or not you are in a relationship or not. There are aspects of relationships not so pretty and happy holding hands as you have mentioned
Cons
-jealousy can set in and it can drive you insane. This may be no fault of your own.
-infidelity, nothing worse than finding out a partner has cheated, this can destroy your trust in future partners
-You may feel the need to answer to your partner. informing them where you were, who you were with, what you were doing, to ease their mind or satiate their jealousy
Fortunately their are pros, and lots of them
Pros
-Loyalty, someone to rely on when others around you have left
-A friend, fair enoiugh you cant play xbox/ football with them. Or do your make up with them for the girls. but a friend like no other, none the less
-Sexual gratification, in a settles relationship, the sexual aspect is entirely mroe fulfilling. A feeling of comfort, allows mroe intimate sex.
-Feel good factor
-Do favours for you, this works both ways. Your friend will make an excuse when asked to pick something up from the shop, your partner wont.
very general question, but hope this helps?
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