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36-40,
*anny365
writes:hii have been i love with this girl for over an year,and things have always been ok. She has been very easy going . When we got together, she told me that was a phase and now she wanted a serious, long term relationship. the question existed for 4 yrs but i confirmed when it got fine at home ie my parents aggreed for the marriage.that is where problems begun. till the time i was non commital an my family disaggreed she was good but now I have sensed she wasn't happy about something but she kept assuring me she loved me and was happy. When I asked why she starts to cry and I get the following list:* She feels trapped * She doesn't want to say she loves me (she says she feels she shouldn't have to) * She feels she isn't independent * She doesn't feel herself * She says I touch her too much * She thinks I don't trust her * She's missing out on uni social life because she feels I'm breathing down her neck. * She says there is no way out of the relationship.After she said all this I felt a bit upset. I really love this girl and she means everything to me. She's done a lot for me and really helped me to get on my feet and start doing things with my life. I really don't want to lose her, but I feel like this is the beginning of the end. She says it's her problem that she has to deal with herself and she doesnt want to stay with me. I feel she's lying to me and herself. Its as if she thinks these problems of hers don't effect me. I've done everything to try and make her happy and to remain excited and proud that she's with me. I really am at a loss! What shall I do? What shall I say?Please Help!
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reader, suitcase  +, writes (21 October 2010):
 dude are you being strict on her???? release the HANDLE a bit,,she might be thinking you are trying to control her,,that's what girls hate,,they want freedom,just trust her,,i think that would work,,,don't suspect her,,
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