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writes:It's been 3 months since a very nasty blowout happened between myself and the man I was sleeping with for 4yrs occured. I have honored everything he said to me that day in July (leave him alone,etc...)It just seems to me that I should feel better after all this time and to be honest with you everyday seems to be just as painful as the day before.I guess part of me still wishes to hear from him and I have had several people tell me that one day I will. I just want the pain to go away. Has anybody else gone through something similar and a)Does anybody believe I will hear from him and b)What else can I do to help rid myself of this horrible pain.P.S. I do keep myself busy between work and my children it just doesn't seem to be enough at times. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTo update this situation. The same man who cursed meout like a dog,told me to stay away from him,to never call his house again,out of the clear blue sky sent me and email yesterday asking me What's been up and some other things. Why do this after going on almost 4 months of silence? My thought is that he might me trying to test the waters to see how I will react. If I'll curse him out or if I'll be cordial in the hopes of the door still being open. What does anybody else think?
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reader, tsarina  +, writes (3 October 2008):
Hey sweetie, I feel your pain. I was recently separated - my own choice. I was still in love with him - throwing away 10 years was what I did. But that does not mean the barriers you now face cannot be overcome. This is what I did: I joined an online dating site. Now bear with me here. My self esteem was at an all time low at the time, but I knew I had to take action. Over the first few weeks I chatted to a variety of different people from all over the world. My self esteem gradually came back and I ended up meeting a local guy. We started seeing each other casually , but it sure did help me - even though it did not work out, we had fun. The advice given by anonymous I can personally verify - it IS the fastest way to get over someone. I have since found someone - again online and local - who is the complete opposite of my ex and life is great. Just be careful online as you are vulnerable right now (and try not to appear needy) and there are guys out there who will take advantage of your current state. Do not go out there telling people about your circumstaces until you get to know them better. Focus on you right now and no-one else. Be a little selfish, even with the kids - this is YOU time right now. You need to heal. Take your time getting to know other guys and do not expect each one you meet to be THE ONE - just have some safe fun. Oh, and be careful not to make each one the REBOUND GUY! Don't go out there looking for love, it WILL come to you and in time you will forget about this guy. Now, go out there and start having some fun!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2008): Hi =) omg do I feel your pain! The only man I ever was in love with hurt me so bad, things would be perfect, then we'd break up, every month for a year! he would say hateful things to me, telling me to leave him alone, don't call, it's over etc. I mean real hateful things to the point where I'd think we'd never see or speak to each other ever in life. I tried to keep myself busy and tried to forget him but it takes time.I know you probably don't want to because your so hurt, but the only way to get over a man...is get another one. Some advice from a friend of mine which actually worked but it took time. It took me 6 months to get over him as far as not crying whenever I thought about him. then he came around in 6 months, by then I had been dating and wasn't even thinking about him all like that. I don't know exactly what happened between you and your guy but all I can say is its going to hurt yes. Your going to wonder if he is thinking of you, what he's doing at this very moment, who he's doing it with, if he's seeing someone etc. Just try, try try not to think about him. It will only drive you crazy! Do things that will get your mind off of him. I don't know what your religious background is but also a prayer to give you strength wouldn't hurt. He WILL come back around. they always do. Because at some point you will pop in his head. Don't be the first to call him! that will only make you out to be annoying. Absence makes the heart grow fonder. Hope this helps =)
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