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writes:Been seeing a woman for three months, she says we are dating, so what does that really mean, I told her am not seeing any one else, can that mean we can see others, I don't want to, but I don't know if she is, she says she isn't, but I don't know for sure,we live in the same town, I don't see her out an about.I know you suppose to trust the person you are seeing, but every time I have I've been burnt. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2015): The only way this relationship will work is if you communicate. You need to ask her about this, only she knows what she means as the word dating is subjective to each person depending on where they're from. If you're in a new relationship and already have trust issues, then perhaps you should see a relationship therapist too just to make sure you don't self sabotage this new chance you have to be with someone.
You can't take out past experiences on a new partner, this is a fresh start. Talk to this lady and let her know you are wanting this is be exclusive and make sure she does too. If there is a difference in views, you at least know where you stand and whether you want to continue.
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reader, Been there Now over it +, writes (29 November 2015):
The term "dating" has evolved over the past decade and I would not be surprised if it has a different meaning in different geographical areas here in the USA.
I live in Los Angeles and dating here often means that you are having sex and are monogamous but your social circle does not yet see you as an established couple. When people see you as an established couple, you become engaged or move in together...those things definitely put you past the dating stage.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2015): I think you need to talk to her, and let her know you want to be exclusive. Dating is usually the period of getting to know someone before you decide you want to be in a fully committed relationship. You should maybe open up to her about your past and let her know your fears, there's a good chance she might share the same ones. Communication is key here to settling your mind.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (29 November 2015):
 It means you are getting to know each other, she isn't seeing anyone else and you aren't seeing anyone else. If you have been burnt so much that you can't trust anyone then perhaps you should explore why that keeps happening with a therapist.
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