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writes: My friends are really beginning to annoy me but they're the only friends I have (I mean, people who hang out with me outside school that my parents aprove of). Lisa is the worst. I'll be going somewhere with her and she'll be driving because she has a car but she'll tell me we're going one place when we're really going somewhere else but she sometimes does this. Or, she'll want to stop somewhere "real quick" when we're on the way to somewhere and she'll take so long doing what she wants that I don't have time to do what I want! Or, she'll keep saying "Hurry up!" when I'm trying to read the backs of books in the bookstore and I really just want to take my time. She'll borrow money for something and buy something else and then I have to explain to my parents where the money went. I tried telling her not to do that and even stopped talking to her for a while and then there were all these rumors about me liking this really popular guy or that I wet the bed and she just told me to laugh it off (I think she started them)Heather is not as bad, but we get upset with her too. she's REALLY and she wines and cries a lot (literally) about how she has no friends and she's actually pretty bossy. She'll say "come sit by me. PLEEEEEEEEASE!" and it's really embarrassing because I was usually trying to sit with someone else anyway and I didn't want her to know that because she has a tendency to join us. SHe's so annoying she pushes people away by her behavior. Or she'll tell me not to order something in a restaurant and when I do she'll go on and on about how fattening it looks and how she doesn't get how I can eat it or she'll start gagging and say she can't watch me eat it (makes it hard to enjoy it). Now, she suddenly has some allergic reactgion to even smelling soy, dairy, gluten, fish, or peanuts so pretty much means I can't eat anything around her because I'm vegetarian. Angela is pretty bad too, because she'll say she's going to the mall with us when she'll basically ignore us and flirt with boys the whole time. She even once gave MY number to a guy and got ME in trouble because my parents check my phone (they at least believed that I only told him I couldn't talk because I was only on there for two minutes and I didn't answser after that). They told him not to ever call again and then Angela got REALLY mad at me because she was trying to set me up with boys. She even did something like that at several birthday parties. Once, at a hockey game where she switched seats with this dude to flirt with this other dude (and then abandoned the bitthday girl), and then at a skating rink where she flirted with this guy all night and only sat down for cake and checking out all the girl's presents, and even wanted to talk her into trading her new presents with her because her own wasn't as good and the girl came from money and all that!I keep trying to tell them I'm not interested in seeing boys, I'm interested din hanging out with them. They all basically told me you don't go to the mall to eat cheese pretzels and read the backs of books, you go there to buy clothes and flirt with boys and that's the point of going. When I want to hang out with just one person, they tell me that's pretty gay and that I should try to find a boyfriend to do stuff like go to movies with.I'm just embarrassed at how all my friends act and I think they're being mean'Am I right or just crazy?
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reader, Roboaxe  +, writes (30 November 2015):
 I think you need to find new friends. You don't seem to get along with any of them.
You seem more introverted and nerdier than them, and that's fine, but you need to hang out with your own crowd.
They are outgoing, manipulative, flirtatious, and a dozen other things that you are not.
Focus on finding one friend and you can build from there.
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (29 November 2015):
 Considering you are 16-17 you are acting like a 12-year-old. At your age some young people have left home, are earning a living, and have a place of their own to live.
To quote my parents you don't appear to have the sense you were born with.
If you know that your friend with the car sets the agenda when she is driving then you have to live with that. Her car, her rules.
And as for all the flirting or none flirting that is going on well that's part of being a teenager. If you don't like it don't hang out with these people. Find friends who are more your type.
I'm sorry if this is harsh but there are people out there with real problems.
Try spending some time volunteering. It may sound like a drag but helping needy people will pay you back in ways you can't imagine.
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