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writes:How do I find the determination to leave my current boyfriend?I've been putting a lot of thought into this relationship and I don't see a future with the person my boyfriend is. He is in his 30's, still lives at home with his parents, lacks a stable job or a job period, lacks ambition, is very selfish - I need to wait and continue to wait until he has time for me and he doesn't see anything wrong with that, even if I had to wait an entire day. He doesn't have boundaries when out with females, he tries to 'train' me that its OK for him to act certain ways with females when I know its wrong and when he prohibits me from even talking to guys. He wants to be single but in a relationship. I don't want to be in a relationship like this... He has lied and manipulated me. I know I need to leave and I know I deserve better. But we actually CAN get along fine and I've become very attached to his family. Also, I get mad at how he treats me and the person he is, but then I wake up the next morning and forget all about it. That's my problem. I get mad then I wake up and forget about it all until the next time it happens. How can I remember all this? How can I find that determination to just walk away????
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2015): If you can't get out of it the way it is, find another guy to talk to. Distract yourself. I mean, I can see you sabotaging this relationship by getting drunk and cheating anyways. What else can you do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2015): I assume he lacks a college degree as well? or does he have one?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2015): It all depends on how much time you're willing to waste on this loser. If you feel you have plenty of time to spare in life then stay with him. Keep dealing with his nonsense. Keep letting him control and disrespect you. Stay with him forever.
At some point you'll realize that life is short.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (29 November 2015):
 Call him and end it, before going to bed, then delete and block his number.
And when you wake up STICK to that decision.
I don't understand how he can "prohibit" you from even talking to other men. That is ridiculous. More so that you basically "allow" it.
You know it's not healthy. No one BUT you can make the choice to end it.
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