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writes:What does it feel like to have sex with the opposite sex when you are in love?I don't think I've ever been in love but I've had a lot of hook ups (where I usually go as far as oral sex.) I also had sex with 3 guys, each that i never loved. And it wasn't that special or amazing at all. A bit painful, that's all.With guys I've actually really liked and hooked up with (oral sex) it was nice, but I always find it easier to masturbate alone to orgasm. Orgasms are mechanical though, I feel. If you rub long enough whether with a guy or without, you'll orgasm.But besides orgasms, I liked the intimacy but i can't say it was mind blowing or beautiful. I feel like maybe something is missing? Girls, what does it feel like to have sex with someone you truly love and what do you enjoy most? I just think that if a guy is pleasuring me orally, then anyone can really do that and get me going, but what makes it special or exciting/different?Also, is it enjoyable to do it over and over again with the same person?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2014): The emotional connection is the magic ingredient.
It's beautiful when nothing but the two of you exist and you are there to make each other feel good. It's the knowledge that this person knows you more than anyone else in the world and has been through it all with you and is celebrating your existence. It's the silent promises to love and to cherish that you communicate through kisses, gazes and caresses. It's the power trip of looking into each other's eyes and realising how much they need you. It's the vulnerability of opening yourself up to them emotionally and physically and trusting that they will handle your heart with care
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reader, KittieS  +, writes (6 January 2014):
 I have had very boring sex with a man I did love, he was not really into working with me so to speak, it was nice, I felt a connection he didn't not really - looking back very uninspiring, I didn't really know any better at the time so felt good.I've had the same on one night stands, fun but nothing you really would write about.I have had amazing sex with someone I didn't love, but it was just sex... The person I think about was very much into us both getting pleasure. It was exhilarating, good, a lot of fun but at the end of the day it was just sex it was a very brief thing and ultimately whilst fun and enjoyable just two people having sex - after a nice cup of tea in the morning we both went our own ways.Then there is the love of my life, the man I am going to marry... The one I have a very strong connection with mentally as well as physically, there have always been fireworks between us it just seemed to work from even the first time, but as our love grows stronger it becomes better and better - it's like nothing I have experienced ever before, he feels connected to me I feel connected to him and it's when that happens that it's truly remarkable.So many men think about what there getting out of it, they don't want to think about anything other than themselves - I think this is why a lot of women aren't that interested in sex, the men aren't giving them anything they can't achieve themselves ;) if men did some research on how to please a woman they might get "lucky" more often lolSo when your in love with a man, at times I think your feel different about the most boring of sex, but when a man truly adores and loves you and makes sex about you and him is when the sparks really fly and it's beyond anything I can describe x
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2014): I myself have never had sex with someone I didn't love. I am not the type to hook up with people, only with whom I'm in a relationship with. sex with an emotional and physical experience with the one you love for me is really amazing. I can't imagine not having love for someone I'm having sex with. I've been with the same man that I love for 3 years and the sex is still very passionate. it sounds cheesy but you really feel like your "making love", its true intimacy.
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reader, ellebelle +, writes (6 January 2014):
 I have had my fair share of one night stands, but I can safely say sex with my boyfriend is the best I've ever had.
I know what you mean about it being a bit mechanical, if you want to orgasm, then by hook or by crook you can, but sex is so different with someone you love. Mostly because you know each other and care about each other... you know each other's bodies and you know what feels good.
The emotional connection is hard to explain... To make a comparison, if you're going to a restaurant, you can go by yourself, with an acquaintance or your best friend. The food is going to be the same, but I'd guess you'd probably have the best time with your best friend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2014): Well, I've only had sex with one person (I'm 23 btw), and I really loved him.
I think that made sex pretty incredible. It helps knowing that the person you're with really wants to make you feel good, and really cares about you. (This may be especially true for women)
And yes, it was enjoyable almost every time (unless I wasn't wet enough). I did struggle because he was really into "vanilla" sex and I wanted to try new places/positions/toys that he just wasn't up for. I also had a much higher sex drive than he did, which was extremely frustrating. But those things are more about sexual compatibility, and I think that if you are compatible with someone you can have sex with them for years (even decades!) and not get tired of it :)
However, if I just want to orgasm, it is easier (but a little less fun) just to do it myself! Haha
PS. Regarding your other question: My ex wasn't the "hottest" guy…he was a little overweight and really hairy haha. But I loved him so much, I didn't care! He was hot to me! And I would have picked sex with him over sex with a super "hot" guy any day :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2014): It must be amazing
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