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writes:Dear Cupid, I am concluding a cheating episode with my fiance and ultimately trying to forgive him, but I am curious as to an explanation he has stated to me. He had cheated with me with one particular girl for a while and I asked him why? He said he wasn't sure and it was like hanging out with one of the guys? What does this mean and why would he become sexual with her if that was what she was - 'one of the guys'.?
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reader, duskyrowe  +, writes (9 October 2008):
 How dare he trivialise and justify what he has done, by saying she is one of the guys. What he did was completely unforgivable and should never be trusted.
He will probably say something rally lame like "She offered it on a plate".
Get rid of this cheating wimp and find yourself a man who will only have eyes for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2008): I understand that you are feeling hurt by it.AskOldersis is probably right but not necessarily in all the cases.Being a tomboy I had more boys as friends.I had one of the best figures around that made some of the girls bitch about me as to how many abortions I had.Only my husband knows that I was a virgin on our wedding night.I was always hanging out with guys.Only I know that not even one of my friends ever saw me as a girl.I have never had a single proposal from one of my friends. I am chilled out,laid back,a good wit,school topper,a book worm.I didn't get attracted to the most sought after of my friends.So I was safe to hang out with and one of the guys.But I definitely agree with Ask Older Sis that if she was "One of the guys" your boy friend wouldn't have had sex with her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2008): Yes he his at ease with her, and why wouldn't he be she was giving him sex and asking nothing in return. If he got with her permenant then all that would change, and he'd cheat on her too. like he will on you again.
Imagine two children in a sweet shop. Both look at a sweet. One thinks shall i steal it? Yeah why not i probably won't get caught. The other one thinks no it's wrong to steal.
Which child is your bf?
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reader, Faybelline +, writes (9 October 2008):
 I think he probably means that she seemed a lot easier to talk to and so in that sense it seemed like she was 'one of the guys'.I know my boyfriend has described other girls in that way before and I can see why guys are often attracted to those kind of girls, in terms of personality they find it easier to get on with them and talk tothem because they're generally a lot more laid back and not so 'girly' and they have a similar sense of humour etc.Good luck with everything, I hope things work out well for you :)
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