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writes:hey guys just wanted to know, what does love actually mean???? and is falling in love painful??? Reply to this Question
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reader, sexy bitch. +, writes (17 May 2010):
well love is when you think about that special someone all the time, when you hear their voice you get butterflies, you smile when you hear their name, its easy to fall in love, but once you make that certain someone your everything when something happens your going to have nothing, it does hurt, like nothing ever hurts before, its horrible when your heartbroken, all you want to do is cry and not eat or do anything, im still in love with someone that isnt in love with me back, i want him more than anything but its just not going to happen, it happens in life, you have to learn to get over it no matter how hard and how much it hurts its for the best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2009): Love can start of as a kind of temporary mental health problem. You cant think straight for a while. Euphoria. Its best not to make any big decisions under the influence. Once that stage passes you may or may not still be in love. But at least you can function normally.
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reader, FionaF  +, writes (21 October 2009):
Personally I don't think there is such a thing as love, nobody seems to really know what it ACTUALLY is. I was obcessed with a guy for about 2 years, I thought I was completely "in love" with him, but all I did was scare the hell out of him. I believe that you can like someone alot, but that doesn't mean you're in love with them. If there is someone you know and you trust and who trusts you, you can tell eachother everything and be yourself around them. But, to me it's just a word.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2007): I cannot possiblity add to what Eve has had to say, fantastic.
Take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2007): Eve couldn't have said it any better...
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reader, AskEve +, writes (4 March 2007):
 To love a person, first and foremost you must KNOW them personally. Lots of teenagers say they "love" a celebrity or are "in love" with them but of course this can't be, they love the idea of who they are but if they've never met them then it's just a crush or infatuation.
Real love on the other hand is very different. If you truly love someone then you respect them for who they are, warts and all. You want to look after them and protect them, you look out for them and put them first. You feel happy and content in their company and enjoy being together. Above all you can be yourself when you're with them. You never try to be anything more or someone different because you don't need to. You don't have to impress them to win them over and you never have to play games to make them like you. There is trust and understanding on both sides and you feel safe and secure within yourself. You would never undermine them, they are not someone in whose company you feel threatened or small. They are someone with whom you can share your innermost thoughts and worries, a person with whom you should be able to share anything, they are your friend and your confidante and you can be honest with them at all times, you can tell them anything because they love you as you are.
He/she may be someone who is the direct opposite of you. On the surface you may seem like chalk and cheese. Whilst you may be loud and forceful they may be quiet and thoughtful. You may come from different backgrounds, different countries or be twenty years apart but this doesn't matter. There is an unspoken language between you, the spiritual connection between you both is so deep that you seem to be able to communicate without even speaking to each other. You are happy to lie in silence together. You feel sometimes that there is no need to talk because you feel that you know what they are thinking anyway. You feel so close to them that sometimes you think you could almost read their mind. You know when they are worried, in pain, or sad just by looking at them. It is as though there exists some kind of telepathy between you.
Real love stands the test of time, you laugh together, cry together and even have your differences but this doesn't matter, you love that person AND their failings. You come together in a crisis and work through things together and this just brings you closer. You take their feelings into consideration in all that you do. They are the most important person in your life!
Falling in love is never painful, it is a gradual, warm process that makes you feel complete.
Eve
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