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writes:I am a 54 year old widow and have been seeing my partner (also widowed) for almost 3 years. We get on brilliantly and I get on well with his family.A few months ago I became suspicious that something was going on when I saw pop-ups on his computer - the type you get on MSM when a contact is on-line.Later I was able to obtain his e-mail passwords and have been checking these addresses over the passed weeks. I now have proof he has seen someone on at least 1 occasion a few weeks ago and that only last week whilst I was working he met up with someone else. He is with her again tonight - (again I am working).I could go in all guns blazing but feel this may just blow everything apart and want some advice as to how I should handle this as I dont want to basically hand him over to her. I dont think its serious with her as he still wants me to be with him as often as I can and dont know why he is doing this as we have an exceptional sex life. I also found he was on a dating site and have joined and been writing to him under a different name - he wants to meet me. Advice please
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2007): Sorry to say this but it that would be it for me. I would just walk away from him and let him stew in his own juice!!
I would have to have caste iron proof though. You say he is with someone while you are at work. How do you know for definate? Do you know where he meets her? If so, then take some time off work and go along, fifteen minutes after they meet up. Surprise him. I would love to see the look on his face when you walk in. If you do something like this then you have got to be prepared for the whole relationship to be well and truly over. Be brave and don't take any cr*p. Let him know that it is over infront of his date. Wonderful.
Take care and keep in touch.
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reader, nicola79 +, writes (5 March 2007):
 So he doesnt know you have seen all this yet? I would sit down one evening with a drink each and ask him what he is playing at. My mum is a widow,we lost my dad who was only 44, So I do know the pain you have been in and learning to trust someone new is hard,but if he is doing this to you,he is no good and you deserve better. I know you love him but you cant let him get away with that. I would just say to him that has he had enough with your relationship and if he says no then ask him why he is chatting and meeting other woman? ask him why he has joined a dating agency,and dont take no crap off him.
I know you dont want to be alone again but he sounds like he just doesnt care about your feelings at all.
You must say something,and im always here if you want to talk.xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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