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writes: What does it mean when your husband of 10 years suddenly begins behaving differently in the bedroom? After all these years, he suddenly is interested in new positions and has become more vocal during sex. He also has started cumming on my stomach rather than inside me. I don't know what to make of this. He says nothing is wrong but........Is he just bored with our sex life or has he picked up some new tricks somewhere else? I'm worried that the latter is true. It's just a gut feeling but I think he may have been with someone else. Has anyone been in a similar situation?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2009): i would do a little detective work and see what the outcome is before deciding what to do next
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2009): I know the feeling, now I am not married and I'm only 18, but I was with a guy for about 5 months, and I felt that when we kissed we both connected well, we both used the same technique and it was just explosive... then a few months later I noticed when we kissed his technique was different. It wasn't as explosive and didn't connect with mine as well as before...I even mentioned it to him, and all he said was "he couldn't tell the difference"...I found out later he had been with another girl at the same time for about 2 months!
Now it could be different with your husband, you have been with eachother for 10 years, thats a long time! My guess is he maybe saw some new porn? I know it sounds kind of silly and I don't really know a lot about it.. (since I'm a girl) but maybe guys usually watch the same kind of porn, and maybe he just noticed something new and thought he'd try it. Or maybe he has been wanting to do it for a while and was just scared how you would react?
If there isn't another woman you know about in the picture that you may have suspicions about I would guess he just decided to change it up a bit.
I think the best thing you can do is ask why the sudden change in behavior? If you liked it let him know, or if you didn't etc. Approach it as if you were just interested in where he got the idea from, not that you think he cheated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2009): Could Be maybe that he is exploriong things that he has wanted to and hasnt had the guts to do it .Just go with it and enjoy it dont grumble over it .He could be exploring this with someone else but has chose to do it with his wife which is a great thing dont make him feel uncomfortable about it .If it turns you on as well let him know and if you arent comfortable with it let him know that .Things change in a sexual relationship as the partners get more comfortable with each other ..........
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2009): he may have picked up tricks somewhere else, but meaning another women, maybe porn or the internet.
he may also feel he is bored, or maybe he feels you both are, things change over years of marriage so do people doesnt mean he dont want you or have other intersts, its simple he is trying to keep what you have alive, by adding something new.
I advise you to do some research of your own and shock him a little bit in the bedroom, 2 can play at that game, and sex is fun.
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