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writes: What does it mean when a guy friend says you know that i love you? We have been friends for about 2 yrs now and the whole story is complicated and we have already done the bedroom thing. So that leaves out the whole get in ur pants thing. We don't live by each other anymore. So we don't talk all the time. he tells me that he cares about me and the last time we talked he said that you know i love you. i didn't really say anything cuz i didn't know what he meant. He told me twice during the conversation. Does he actually mean it or love me like a friend??
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reader, Just_keep_swimming +, writes (24 January 2008):
I have alot of close male friends, and they all requently tell me they love me, not like, LOVE. Saying the 'L' word doesnt automatically mean that he is in love with you. Just last night one of my friends said "you're what I like to call 'a keeper', you know I love you", but trust me, he's not in love with me!If you're not in as closer contact as you were with him, then prehaps he's scared you'll drift apart. He could be making sure you still care about him and arent forgetting him! As macho as they can act sometimes, guys can be just as sensitive to these things as us lot!However, thats not to say that he def doesnt love you as more. Its all about context. What are you talking about when he says it? Does he make a joke insult then say it, are you talking about relationships...think about the timing of when he says it, what triggers it.The obvious answer would be just to ask him next time he says it! Just be careful because when love gets mixed up in friendships, things can get messy!
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (24 January 2008):
Saying I love you without any actions is like faith without works.
A guy would not say 'love' if it is only a friend. The word would be 'like.'
If he says that , he means, he love you more than a friend .But he is unsure if you love him back the same.
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reader, shandygirl +, writes (24 January 2008):
P.S. Say " I LOVE YOU TOO " if you mean it.
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reader, shandygirl +, writes (24 January 2008):
Next time he says he loves you... ask him what he means by that. Get it clarified !
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2008): Hi Hunny,
If I were you the next time he phones talk with him if he has said he loves you more than the one time in the conversation Id be thinking he love you not just as a friend, You dont mention how you feel as this could get complicated, as you dont want to loose a good friend Ive been there and It was very hard I had to stop contact for awhile. It all worked out in the end but it is sad to loose someone you care about. If you do have feelings for him love then it would be better to no just what he is trying to tell you and take it from there. TAKE CARE AND GOOD LUCK WITH LOVE N HUGS MANDY xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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